I’ve been married for 4 years and together for 12. The sex has steadily declined in frequency in the last 3 years. One year ago we had our first child since then my wife’s desire is almost zero. I’ve read some posts on here and she is willing to have sex but never wants it. Sex for her is me finishing it as fast as I can. Anytime I try to please her she is not interested and has only had one orgasam since we have been together. I often mention things to spice it up and her usual response of maybe someday but not today. We never had these problems when we were younger. I’m 35 and she is 33 btw. To put it into perspective a good week would be once im going to say 3 times a month and that’s probably high.