unless she's said otherwise, why do you think she's not attracted to you for all that you are? could be fine in her eyes.
I don't understand what the Monkey Wrench was...I assume you let her know the comment hurt you, or she felt that....that Magic Mike was HOT & you aren't that young stud anymore...LookingForHelpwithTakeTwo said: I am looking for insight into my relationship with my fiancee, who i have been with for 4 years (our wedding is planned for next spring) but one thing came up to throw a monkey wrench that hasn't over 4 years of a partnership, trusting, loving, collaborative, monogamous, truthful, mutual respecting relationship.
I love your attitude HumanBecoming. :smthumbup: :smthumbup: My husband felt the storyline wasn't too bad either. Pretty much the power of a woman ...When this came out, I told my wife she and her bff should go see it at the theater. She did, and managed to get home without going off and having sex with hot young guys. Amazing!
Hey, I'm closing in on 40, and am NO Channing Tatum anyway, but last week, I rented it so we could watch it together- there was some guy eye candy in there too. Heck, even a plot and good story line! We had fun making fun of how a couple of the actors looked (Mathew Mcconahey, ew!)
The advertisements for this film don't match the content much at all. When I saw the first couple of previews I thought "WTF? You've got to be kidding me with this crap". Then at some point I was shocked to find out it was a Soderbergh film, which made me do a double take. I try and see all his films. Now things were awkward. I'm a secure man, but still not secure enough to go to the movies alone to see a film with this content. I told my wife that, and she said "Oh good! I was going to buy tickets for us for next week and thought I would have to pull your teeth".I have to say, with all the hype surrounding this movie, I had absolutely no interest in it. It was hyped up as porn. I find porn disgusting (my opinion of it, not a reflection on other people who like it. My husband agrees with me). So, because it was marketed as a type of porn, I had zero interest in seeing it.... then the ladies who went started talking about it. Some were quite disappointed because it wasn't what they thought it was gonna be. LOL! So, after hearing what Mrs.HB and a few others have said about it, I am SLIGHTLY interested in it. It's not something I will go out of my way to get, but it is one that I am now mildly interested in... and that is only because of the reviews from friends. But it won't be the end of the world if I don't see it.![]()
I hope I can shed some light on this for you as a just turned 40 years old this year and turning 40 hit me. Also my wife and I over the last year or so had become a little distracted with life and weren't as connected as usual. Our relationship was FAR from bad, but there were a couple issues under the surface which didn't make me feel quite as secure in the relationship as I should've. Those two things together had ME (not her and not our relationship) feeling a bit insecure when this movie came out. The problems that were there were masked by the movie.Dear Community
This is the first thread i have ever posted and i am nervous but reaching out for your advice if you have interest or good advice to share.
I am looking for insight into my relationship with my fiancee, who i have been with for 4 years (our wedding is planned for next spring) but one thing came up to throw a monkey wrench that hasn't over 4 years of a partnership, trusting, loving, collaborative, monogamous, truthful, mutual respecting relationship.
For whatever reason this one movie caused a pretty serious riff. She told me she liked and wanted the movie and the guys were hot. I bought the movie for her (yes I do have some confidence issues as i am 40 and not 22 with a tight six pack) because she wanted it and she commented on that. Then she told me she didn't want it and was not interested in the movie, so i returned it.
Now I don't know what she really wants, whether i still am the guy she wants to be with, or what's going on. This has caused a riff that i don't know how to handle with her.
Can any women/couples/men share similar experience - has anyone reached forties when i don't have the body or drive of a 22 or 25 year old, and can't compare, how can i still attract my fiancee?
I'd appreciate any advice you may have. Thanks very much.
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"Yay! My wife is juicing openly and unashamedly over young men I can't hope to compete with! Hooray! Just give me some LSD so I can be drug affected enough to actually believe she is sincere when she claims she finds my 40yo body just as attractive!"When this came out, I told my wife she and her bff should go see it at the theater. She did, and managed to get home without going off and having sex with hot young guys. Amazing!
Hey, I'm closing in on 40, and am NO Channing Tatum anyway, but last week, I rented it so we could watch it together- there was some guy eye candy in there too. Heck, even a plot and good story line! We had fun making fun of how a couple of the actors looked (Mathew Mcconahey, ew!)
It's a movie, try not to let it bother you. This certainly shouldn't cause wedding altering problems. If it is, I would seriously start looking deeper, because this is just a catalyst to some other problems.