I realize this is a marriage forum and im not married, but ive been with my girlfriend for 9 years. we have a six year old and might as well be married. she has had short lived jobs here and there , but is currently not working. I pay for everything and work around 60 hours a week. she does not cook or clean and this is the problem. She does not like to do these things and thinks she shouldn't have to. I feel like it's a ridiculous notion that she shouldn't do any of these things and i should do all of them. Am I wrong? So, of course this leads to arguments. I can't help but be aggravated by her unwillingness to at least keep the house clean. I grew up in a filthy house and i do not want the same for my child. She wants to move out so she doesn't have to hear me complain about it, but if she moves out my child will still be living in a filthy house at least part time. I love her and don't want her to go, but I feel like my child seeing her live like this is detrimental to my child's image of how a person should live. Should I ignore this behavior and do everything so my child wont have to go through the trauma of her parents splitting up, or should I let her go and show my child what its like to live in a respectable house with a respectable person at least part time?