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EDIT: Thanks guys for your help, please let this thread die
My STBX (Soon to be ex) and I are more stable now compared to the whirlpool that we were in since D-day. We've re-established communication channels, plans and routines, and now we can focus on ourselves and rebuilding our relationship even if it means we can only be friends. During this time, I've promised her not to step out, until we can be certain if we are reconciliable or not.
However, today for some reason, I could not stop longing for physical intimacy. I was going to go camping in the middle of nowhere to clear my mind but it was p-ssing down with rain and crap. As I got home I realised it was more than just a desire for sex, it was a desire to just hold someone. I wonder if I really shot myself in the foot by making that promise. Now my wife did give me the impression that she's still up for intimacy, but I don't want to sabotage this seperation process by sleeping with her.
And at the same time I don't want to break my promise to her, so for now, other women are out of the question. I just wonder what I should do... thoughts?
My STBX (Soon to be ex) and I are more stable now compared to the whirlpool that we were in since D-day. We've re-established communication channels, plans and routines, and now we can focus on ourselves and rebuilding our relationship even if it means we can only be friends. During this time, I've promised her not to step out, until we can be certain if we are reconciliable or not.
However, today for some reason, I could not stop longing for physical intimacy. I was going to go camping in the middle of nowhere to clear my mind but it was p-ssing down with rain and crap. As I got home I realised it was more than just a desire for sex, it was a desire to just hold someone. I wonder if I really shot myself in the foot by making that promise. Now my wife did give me the impression that she's still up for intimacy, but I don't want to sabotage this seperation process by sleeping with her.
And at the same time I don't want to break my promise to her, so for now, other women are out of the question. I just wonder what I should do... thoughts?