Ok so I'm 28 and my bf is 33. We have been together for 5 1/2 years and have a 4 yr old son together. I also have a son from a previous relationship that he takes great care of. We live together and do everything that married couples do. I'm ready to get married and he says he wants to marry me, but has never wanted to get married (makes no sense to me). Marriage just doesn't excite him (his words). He said he may have a phobia of marriage and keeps bringing up all the negative things about it, like divorce and feeling regret if it doesn't work out. We got in a huge argument about it today on Thanksgiving of all days. I love him deeply and I know that he is the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with, and he feels the same, just minus the marriage part. It's so frustrating because he flip flops back and forth between wanting to do it and not wanting to do it. Any advice for me and how to cope with this?