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I am going to try to make a long story short. Been married 20yrs. Many problems over the yrs but we were happy recently til we started having problems with our teen child. Hubby basically left it all up to me to deal with and we have grown apart and me resentful. This has been the last 2yrs. Then I find he is talking to an ex coworker(female) for hours on end. Try working thru that, then I find he is looking at porn lots and lots of young girls. ("barely legal" crap) We have almost no sex life. How can I compete with that, since I am older now and have had multiple c sections that has left my stomach a mess! He has recently made effort, but is it too late? I am disappointed in him and our marriage. I now find he did something that was over the line, by snooping. Not on his phone or computer, but a search engine. Anyway I went ballistic! He was apologetic but I am angry. Btw, we have been in marriage counciling for about 5 weeks, and I am very depressed etc. Now he says he is filing for divorce because I went snooping and nothing he does is good enough, never will be. I should probably be glad that it is potentially over, (he says he called a lawyer today) but I guess it doesn't seem natural for me to "give up" without a real effort. I don't even know if I can forgive him, I feel betrayed by him and he really hurts me often. I would like others take on if I should just give up on this man who I have loved for over half my life. Thanks...
 

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Ask how he intends filing, and which lawyer did he call, he is likely bluffing.
Is there any way of saving what was 'over the line' as evidence? You mention 'barely legal' and that makes me wonder what 'over the line' is. Hopefully I am not making 1+1 equal 3 but it sounds worrying.

And yes if marriage counselling doesn't work or he really is filing then go and don't look back. Sorry to say this, I know he is your hubby but it sounds like he has some problems. I was going to say he sounds like an idiot but the previous sentence probably looks better.
 
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