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I'd be put off. Just because: my sex life with a partner is a living, real life physical experience between us and to boil it down to numbers and/or logged encounters on paper changes it from something only as a real life experience only between us to a log.
You do realize that significant changes in one's sex life can indicate several health issues, right?

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Since I'm an intelligent adult, yes I do realize that.

You do realize that you can notice a significant change in your sex life without keeping a written log about it, right?
 

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Could you be a little more specific on what sexual data entails?

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The charity's suggestion was put a pound in each time you have sex and then give the money to a charity that supports fertility at end of month.

So the data I started collecting after we had a baby was a tick on the relevant page each time we had sex. Nothing complex, just a tick on the page and if two ticks then ...

If no tick then it meant it had not happened.
 

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There are two examples of reactions to this that come to mind.
The guy who kept track of the reasons his wife gave him for rejecting her initiations, then presented her with the excel sheet on her way to vacation without him. She was not pleased.
Then there was the time I told my wife we hadn't had sex for over 47 days and was wondering if that part of our life had ended. She said she hadn't noticed. . . . I was not pleased.
 

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Since I'm an intelligent adult, yes I do realize that.

You do realize that you can notice a significant change in your sex life without keeping a written log about it, right?
Speak for yourself. There are many who don't readily recognize such patterns. Whether it's in our sex lives or other areas, if we don't log it we lose track. Just today I finally remembered to call my doctor for my checkup and blood screening. I hadn't realized it had been 4 years since I had last seen them or since I have had a sex partner outside my wives.

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The charity's suggestion was put a pound in each time you have sex and then give the money to a charity that supports fertility at end of month.



So the data I started collecting after we had a baby was a tick on the relevant page each time we had sex. Nothing complex, just a tick on the page and if two ticks then ...



If no tick then it meant it had not happened.
When I first read the OP, I wasn't sure if you were talking about number of times, types of activity, or even porn sites visited. I did glean what from later post though, bit I appreciate the response back.

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Since I'm an intelligent adult, yes I do realize that.

You do realize that you can notice a significant change in your sex life without keeping a written log about it, right?
Speak for yourself. There are many who don't readily recognize such patterns. Whether it's in our sex lives or other areas, if we don't log it we lose track. Just today I finally remembered to call my doctor for my checkup and blood screening. I hadn't realized it had been 4 years since I had last seen them or since I have had a sex partner outside my wives.

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Well, I was SPEAKING FOR MYSELF in reply to OPs question. You decided to *pick on me* because of my reply to OP regarding my opinion.

My answer to OP asking for opinions on sex logging stands.

I don't care if other people need to log ****ing their partner or not ****ing their partner in order to see a pattern. My feeling about it is unchanged, and the only person who needs to care about my opinion is my sex partner. Stop replying to me.
 

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So my wife had a fit-bit for years and since I am in charge of all technology and blunt instruments, I kept the app for it on my phone. The app had a nice calendar that among other things kept track of fertility. There were icons for all related events so you could keep track of them. Those included protected sex and unprotected sex. Based on that scant evidence, I don't think it is that unacceptable to women (in general) to keep a record. BUT, I've seen plenty of reactions like Livvie's.

In defence of record keeping here are some quotes:
If you didn't write it down it didn't happen. Tom Clancy regarding medical research.
If you don't write it down, you will forget. Ibrahim Diallo
"The Only Difference Between Screwing Around and Science Is Writing It Down" - the 2012 MythBusters episode, Bouncing Bullet.

The answer to this is commonly it wasn't research or science. But when you do need to present evidence to your medical specialist it is a good idea to present science, because that is their training.
The problem with the "I feel comfortably warm about it" statement is that the partner may be having a totally different feeling about it. At least have a feeling check every now and again.
 

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Well, I was SPEAKING FOR MYSELF in reply to OPs question. You decided to *pick on me* because of my reply to OP regarding my opinion.

My answer to OP asking for opinions on sex logging stands.

I don't care if other people need to log ****ing their partner or not ****ing their partner in order to see a pattern. My feeling about it is unchanged, and the only person who needs to care about my opinion is my sex partner. Stop replying to me.
The implication you left was that you felt it would mean less if your partner had to do such. Maybe not what you intended but there nonetheless. I was pointing out that while you might not need external tracking tools, it doesn't mean your potential partners won't, nor should it mean less if they do need such.

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So, what was his reaction? Was he defensive or going "I'm de man"?
His reaction was like
"What? are you keeping track on me? What for? Is something wrong? "

Then I said, "Why? Do you perceive that when we make love it is you making love on your own?"
"Why do you ask that? "
"Because you asked if i was keeping track on you and not on us?"
"Oh! Are you keeping track on us then?"

Then I reminded him about the article he brought home all them years ago and he started laughing about it and asking how much money we have raised since. Is when I said the money would have reduced each year but this year we are shut in so we can do better.

We also agreed to actually give the money to a charity and we are going to decide which. Means my log carries on.
 

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My late wife did just that; I’ve read a few days of them since her passing. Some make me smile and some make me sad; i have them all on a shelf in my library.

Bur weird no, what weird is I put Ketchup on my cottage cheese.
 

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The ability to track sexual activity is built-in on all iPhones via the Health app. Sadly my Apple Watch is unable to auto self detect cunnilingus.
 

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My late wife did just that; I’ve read a few days of them since her passing. Some make me smile and some make me sad; i have them all on a shelf in my library.

Bur weird no, what weird is I put Ketchup on my cottage cheese.
Ouch, that’s got to be tough.

On a lighter note, no, cottage cheese is just weird.
 

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Well, I was SPEAKING FOR MYSELF in reply to OPs question. You decided to *pick on me* because of my reply to OP regarding my opinion.

My answer to OP asking for opinions on sex logging stands.

I don't care if other people need to log ****ing their partner or not ****ing their partner in order to see a pattern. My feeling about it is unchanged, and the only person who needs to care about my opinion is my sex partner. Stop replying to me.
The implication you left was that you felt it would mean less if your partner had to do such. Maybe not what you intended but there nonetheless. I was pointing out that while you might not need external tracking tools, it doesn't mean your potential partners won't, nor should it mean less if they do need such.

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I asked you to stop replying to me. Stop replying to me. Stop replying to me. Stop replying to me.

Don't tell me how I should feel (in this very hypothetical situation). How very off-putting. Don't reply to me again, and don't opine to me how I should feel.
 

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I asked you to stop replying to me. Stop replying to me. Stop replying to me. Stop replying to me.

Don't tell me how I should feel (in this very hypothetical situation). How very off-putting. Don't reply to me again, and don't opine to me how I should feel.
Welcome to public forums. Don't want a response? Don't give one. Feel free to unsubscribe to the thread, or even block me. Your options are many.

As to telling you how to feel, wasn't my intent. Apologies if it came off that way. But as noted, you were coming off as if everyone should feel as you do, and I was pointing out differently.

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Hmmm, I'm not sure.

I guess it would mostly depend on where this info is kept....on line, in a handwritten diary and how secure it is from others finding it and reading it.
If it is insecure and others could possibly read it I would be somewhat upset and want it secured.

I would then ask why. Why are you keeping this info. I would just be curious. Not that I'd need a good explanation to validate it I would just want to get inside her head and understand her feelings and need for doing it.
I don't like secrets so I wouldn't respond favorably if she tried to hide it from me and deflect from answering my questions.

We are husband and wife and it is OUR sex life. I don't want secrets about stuff like this.
Tell me honestly why you are documenting our sex life.
 

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Hmmm, I'm not sure.

I guess it would mostly depend on where this info is kept....on line, in a handwritten diary and how secure it is from others finding it and reading it.
If it is insecure and others could possibly read it I would be somewhat upset and want it secured.

I would then ask why. Why are you keeping this info. I would just be curious. Not that I'd need a good explanation to validate it I would just want to get inside her head and understand her feelings and need for doing it.
I don't like secrets so I wouldn't respond favorably if she tried to hide it from me and deflect from answering my questions.

We are husband and wife and it is OUR sex life. I don't want secrets about stuff like this.
Tell me honestly why you are documenting our sex life.
This was not a secret. Its just that it had gone on for so long he had forgotten it was going on. I was brought up in a household that believes everything in the family is confidential but within the family we all share according to our ages.
 

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I asked you to stop replying to me. Stop replying to me. Stop replying to me. Stop replying to me.

Don't tell me how I should feel (in this very hypothetical situation). How very off-putting. Don't reply to me again, and don't opine to me how I should feel.
Welcome to public forums. Don't want a response? Don't give one. Feel free to unsubscribe to the thread, or even block me. Your options are many.

As to telling you how to feel, wasn't my intent. Apologies if it came off that way. But as noted, you were coming off as if everyone should feel as you do, and I was pointing out differently.

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You are a liar.

In my first response, which WAS TO THE OP, I said *I* would be put off. I never acted, hinted, intimated, suggested, that anyone else should feel as I do.

Then you started arguing with how *I* feel and I asked you to stop replying to me and you won't stop and at this point it feels like harassment.

If I were to block you, then I would not be able to see the lying way you are talking about me.

Stop mentioning me, stop lying about me, stop talking about me.

If you do again, I HOPE YOU GET BANNED.

ETA I've reported you. Stop replying to me and stop mentioning me.
 

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Welcome to public forums. Don't want a response? Don't give one. Feel free to unsubscribe to the thread, or even block me. Your options are many.

As to telling you how to feel, wasn't my intent. Apologies if it came off that way. But as noted, you were coming off as if everyone should feel as you do, and I was pointing out differently.
And you are coming off as though everyone should feels as you do.

Yes this is a public forum. However, on public forums it's good form to oblige when a person makes that sort of request.

Livvie asked you to stop posting to her. I suggest that you do that.

And @Livvie, if you don't want someone to reply to you, don't reply to their posts. Just report the posts that you consider offending.

~ Speaking as a moderator.
 
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