Interact as little as possible.
Do the 180.
Try to sleep when she is awake and vice versa.
Don't get emotional with her.
Don't initiate conversation except business only.
Refuse to participate in arguments.
Take care of yourself and the house/kids, leave her crap to her.
Don't go out of your way to accommodate her.
She is now a roommate you barely know. Treat her as such.
Protect yourself financially.
Be prepared for the worst. Don't trust she'll treat you fairly.
ohh. same bed is rough. Tried that at first, had to quit. too hard. moved to the couch until she moved out. emotional comfort is more important than physical comfort.Nothing is filed or absolute but in this situation now, last 3 months. Want the child to have a stable environment for as long as possibile, is she is very susceptable to significant behavior changes when faced with radical changes, and she already feels the tension.
Whole arrangment currently working ok at best, still sharing the same bed but widely seperated. No physical intimacy in the last 3 months, although I still desire her. Allows us to communicate daily without to much effort, it is mostly small talk while we are here together. We both have a goals we are trying to accomplish in the next several months, which one way or another will result in more significant changes.
Tough not to pursue her or show her I am trying to change or be with her more, but this only makes her more frustrated with the past. Not sure if this is the best thing we could do, but seems the best for all at the moment.