I am seeking feedback from others who have experienced similar... First of all, I love my husband, we have similar interests, I really enjoy being with him, he is extremely kind, loving, supportive etc. The only problem is every time I want to do something for me (not us) he does something to sabotage it. I am 100% certain its not on purpose, and his actions aren't malicious, but the end result is the same. Because of his actions, I can't have hobbies or friends (I don't have a family). He says he wants me to have all these things, but it hasn't turned out so far, and I'm not asking much, just maybe one or two nights out a year where somehow I'd find friends that can accept I'd only see them once or twice a year, and do a tiny bit of art! It's been 20 years like this so the situation isn't going to change, and I've got to the stage where I feel empty of hope, and I feel I have to choose between being contented just having a life with him (which is wonderful - don't get me wrong), and doing things and having friends that could make make me more happy and fulfilled as a person. Maybe I'm being a brat and I'm not seeing how lucky I am to have a partner that tries his best to make me happy (when I'm with him), and in the grand scheme of things hobbies aren't that important and friends come and go?