My fiance and i started dating in july of 2008. Everything moved real fast and i was living with him by sept of 2008 and engaged by jan of 2009. Well at the end of feb 2009 he went to prison on a probation violation. At first I thought that it was going to be a couple of months but he ended up staying in prison for 16 months. This man was the love of my life before he went to prison so i figured i'd wait. In the meantime I lived in his house, took care of his daughter often, checked on his grandmother and visited him 45 minutes away 3 times a week. Also, i was no angel. I did have relations with someone for a few months while my fiance was away in prison. I did end up ending this relationship and letting my fiance know what had happen and he forgave me. We jan 2010 we knew that he would be coming home soon, just not sure when. He started talking about having his grandmother move in with us to help with his daughter and mine while we worked and he hated that she lived alone. I stated to him that i would like some time for us to get to know each other again and rekindle things as i thought it was going to be a rough adjustment. He agreed to wait 3 or 4 months after he came home to invite her to live with us so i figured it would give us time to talk about the pros and cons and discuss things. Well 2 days later (in jan before he was even home) she called to say people were on their way to deliver to belongings and she was moving in. He went ahead and asked her to move in without my knowledge. So i lived with his grandmother until july 2010 until he came home. Now it is August 2010 and i am miserable! I feel like nothing is back to normal. I don't know if it is just that him and i have changed and we are different people, if its cause his grandmother lives with us (and is very controling and nosey) or if it is I have resent for him leaving, i have resent for him making such a huge decision without me or if he resents me for cheating. I just don't know what to do anymore. He has taken all my money, debit cards ect saying i dont know how to save money. Now he has his car back. So basically i have nothing and no way to get anything and i feel stuck. I just don't know what to do anymore. I put a lot of time and effort in this relationship. HELP! Any comments or anyone else been through this?