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Psychology Behind Why People Lie ........
After reading devastating stories on here day after day ...one realizes 99% of the time it starts with a simple LIE, a simple justified hiding...if people could just learn to be honest with each other ....even when it's not so pretty....... wouldn't this be preferable .... more Respectable ?? ... Sure it is going to lead to some CONFLICT in your relationship, but it gets it on the "operating" table....and has the opportunity to be resolved at "the cutting" (the seed).....before it grows into an overgrown Cancer .....over feeling like a bomb was dropped on your life down the line
....blindsided & betrayed.
I am a very direct person....I try to counter the truth with some grace (how important it is!)....it is not my JOY to offend others but I must remain TRUE to myself... I don't even like to engage in white lies...as much as I can avoid them. I would tie my mouth shut before I complimented when It wasn't sincere - for instance. And don't dare ask me my opinion if all you want is someone to agree with you.
Then we all have friends who like to Stretch the truth...for a :rofl: ...telling BS stories to impress .....not sure how some feel about this - but for me.....such people are like little children "crying wolf" .... once I've gotten this impression from someone, they are put on a lower rung in my book, half idiot....I question everything they say....I just don't understand the mentality, the respect for their word is gone.
I found this article on the net We're All Lying Liars: Why People Tell Lies, and Why White Lies Can Be OK .... I didn't care for it at all ....I do , however, believe the majority of people LIVE like this ...it is acceptable, some feel
makes for a happier society. But at the other end of that rainbow.... we realize we can't trust anyone - the world appears Plastic before us...an honest man we can not find.....even a willing compliment given to us is tainted... insincerity a way of life.
Sad ...very sad I say. And we wonder why noone has any Trust these days.

After reading devastating stories on here day after day ...one realizes 99% of the time it starts with a simple LIE, a simple justified hiding...if people could just learn to be honest with each other ....even when it's not so pretty....... wouldn't this be preferable .... more Respectable ?? ... Sure it is going to lead to some CONFLICT in your relationship, but it gets it on the "operating" table....and has the opportunity to be resolved at "the cutting" (the seed).....before it grows into an overgrown Cancer .....over feeling like a bomb was dropped on your life down the line

I am a very direct person....I try to counter the truth with some grace (how important it is!)....it is not my JOY to offend others but I must remain TRUE to myself... I don't even like to engage in white lies...as much as I can avoid them. I would tie my mouth shut before I complimented when It wasn't sincere - for instance. And don't dare ask me my opinion if all you want is someone to agree with you.
Then we all have friends who like to Stretch the truth...for a :rofl: ...telling BS stories to impress .....not sure how some feel about this - but for me.....such people are like little children "crying wolf" .... once I've gotten this impression from someone, they are put on a lower rung in my book, half idiot....I question everything they say....I just don't understand the mentality, the respect for their word is gone.
I found this article on the net We're All Lying Liars: Why People Tell Lies, and Why White Lies Can Be OK .... I didn't care for it at all ....I do , however, believe the majority of people LIVE like this ...it is acceptable, some feel

Sad ...very sad I say. And we wonder why noone has any Trust these days.
.........................The Different Kinds of Lies You Tell
1. White Lies - People tell white lies claiming to be tactful or polite ...could be making up an excuse for not going to a party, or showing appreciation for an undesirable gift. But telling white lies after awhile can cause conflict with others because over time they understand the insincerity. That is why white liars can lose their credibility
2. Broken Promises - Broken promises can be especially damaging when the person who made the promise had no intentions whatsoever of keeping their word to begin with.
3. Fabrication - Fabrication is telling others something you don’t know for sure is true. Fabrications are extremely hurtful because they lead to rumors that can damage someone else’s reputation. Spreading rumors is not only a lie but is also stealing another’s reputation.
4. Bold Faced lie - A bold-faced lie is telling something that everyone knows is a lie....When people hear a bold-faced lie they are resentful that the liar would be so belittling of their time & intelligence.
5. Deception - A deceiver tries to create an impression that causes others to be misled, by not telling all the facts, or creating a false impression.
6. Plagiarism- Plagiarism is both stealing and lying. It consists of copying someone else’s work and calling it your own.
7. Compulsive lying- Compulsive lying is often caused by low self-esteem and a need for attention; in fact, the compulsive liar finds it all but impossible to stop. A compulsive liar tells their mistruths even when telling the truth would be easier and better.
