What I'm getting from your post is that you are stressed out about pushing your crap on her so much that she will bail.
In my case I told my self to go a head a push, push , push and push. I continued to investigate (it don;t last for ever), I continued to ask for answers, I continued to talk about what I felt.
The point here is making sure you open up this can of worm so wide that if she is worth her salt to keep around then she can take the consequences that come with her betrayal.
In short do what you need to do to heal and it will be up to your old lady to take it or bail. Its like if she really wants this then she will take the heat. If she want out she will bail.
At the end of the day the last thing you want is to sweep this under the rug, have it eat at you for months and years and have your chick find some other POS cuz she ain't happy.
Crack this crap wide open and it will be up to your chick to do the heavy lifting that is needed to help you heal or she can walk away *now* instead of later.
Again this kind of sh1t don;t last forever, but it the "trust but verify", its the talking over the same crap over and over again that got me thru thos infidelity thing......
Its sucks brother but the worst thing you can do IMHO is hold back thinking your making it worse.........SCREW THAT MAKE IT WORSE and let you chick face the consequense of how jacked up you are.
Dude I pushed and pushed and asked the same thing over and over again...hell I was ready to let my old lady go, so if she really wanted to stay she put up with how I dealth with this crap.
I must have done something right cuz after almost 3 years since d-day she still around. Granted I'm no were near as anal as I was ....say 6 month past d-day, even a year later I was still tracking her, but these days my old lady diserves a bone cuz she realy is no longer that decietfulo women.....still horny as hell but at least honest about it.
Good luck man and what ever you DO NOT SWEEP THIS UNDER THE CARPET CUZ YOUR WORRIED ABOUT YOU PUSHING YOUR CHICK AWAY. Dude its time for her to face this and own it and understand who she really is.
Man I could go on but my Chargers are coming on
In my case I told my self to go a head a push, push , push and push. I continued to investigate (it don;t last for ever), I continued to ask for answers, I continued to talk about what I felt.
The point here is making sure you open up this can of worm so wide that if she is worth her salt to keep around then she can take the consequences that come with her betrayal.
In short do what you need to do to heal and it will be up to your old lady to take it or bail. Its like if she really wants this then she will take the heat. If she want out she will bail.
At the end of the day the last thing you want is to sweep this under the rug, have it eat at you for months and years and have your chick find some other POS cuz she ain't happy.
Crack this crap wide open and it will be up to your chick to do the heavy lifting that is needed to help you heal or she can walk away *now* instead of later.
Again this kind of sh1t don;t last forever, but it the "trust but verify", its the talking over the same crap over and over again that got me thru thos infidelity thing......
Its sucks brother but the worst thing you can do IMHO is hold back thinking your making it worse.........SCREW THAT MAKE IT WORSE and let you chick face the consequense of how jacked up you are.
Dude I pushed and pushed and asked the same thing over and over again...hell I was ready to let my old lady go, so if she really wanted to stay she put up with how I dealth with this crap.
I must have done something right cuz after almost 3 years since d-day she still around. Granted I'm no were near as anal as I was ....say 6 month past d-day, even a year later I was still tracking her, but these days my old lady diserves a bone cuz she realy is no longer that decietfulo women.....still horny as hell but at least honest about it.
Good luck man and what ever you DO NOT SWEEP THIS UNDER THE CARPET CUZ YOUR WORRIED ABOUT YOU PUSHING YOUR CHICK AWAY. Dude its time for her to face this and own it and understand who she really is.
Man I could go on but my Chargers are coming on