You compared me saying standards reflect self worth with the car you drive reflecting financial worth. I disagree. Not everyone values a car, so they wouldn’t put a lot of money into it. But standards meaning... how you expect to be treated, does reflect self worth to a certain degree. Some people have little self worth they are willing to put up with abuse, and bad treatment.
What I mean about too high and too low standards is needing to be treated a certain way before you can pass go.
For example, I have a girlfriend that thinks men should treat a women they are interested in a certain way. So she needs the man to setup a date. Pay 100% the bill. Open doors, and walk her to her door etc. she is the type of women who would stand by the car door waiting for it to be opened for her. And walk back in the house if it wasn’t.
Some women have no standards. They set up the first date, are willing to keep trying to set up dates even when the guy cancels, they don’t expect the man to pay the bill, they are the ones always reaching out, they are easy to have sex with even though you didn’t have to work that hard or even be that nice. Women they essentially chase men and are happy with scrapes of effort.
IMO, your girlfriend does not have standards. She has hoops that she expects men to jump through to earn her time/interest. The way I refer to women like this is that they are 'projects'. For me personally, I would be looking for a woman to be a 'partner' not a 'project'.
This particular example does not fit the idea of 'high maintenance' either (as suggested by @JustTheWife). High maintenance is a reference into how easy she is to 'have fun with'. If it takes a lot of time, money and effort for her to be ready to go have some 'fun', then she is high maintenance. (FYI, every other man on here may describe these ideas differently than I just did)