I would honestly treat it like an addict situation. I would treat the betrayed as traumatized victim of an addict. Nobody assigns marital responsibility to a person whose spouse pisses their life away on Opiates, I don’t think infidelity should be any different. Just a different method of rehab and all the responsibility for the affair laid right in the cheater’s lap. Obviously a betrayed person has responsibility for their own life and decisions therein on how their future will be determined… but they need the health, mindfulness and tools to make good decisions.That's a big statement right there ^^^.
We need a 1-800-black-sheep number to get the right counselor onboard!
I suppose this is a thread-jack. But it kind of isn’t because really… every betrayed person has to deal with this issue.