[Affaircare]

In order to NOT cannibalize (haha) a zombie thread (What makes a man sexy?), I put forth this question on behalf of @1994.

Based on another current thread in the General forum, I wanted to see if we could keep this one going in parallel. For the women: what qualities do you find "exciting" in a man? You can define that word how you like.

So women of TAM...what qualities do you find "exciting" in a man? Regale us!

 

[Lady2019]

In my single years I was always drawn to men that were content in their life, had hobbies, interests, took care of their **** and were not worried about upkeeping appearances or a relationship just for the sake of being "cool". I guess I find the mystery man exciting haha.

One thing I always noticed right away and still do is hands. Are they clean? Are they dirty from a days work or unkept? Are they working hands? I think hands tell a lot about personal hygiene and work ethic, both high on my list of what I find attractive.

Then the eye twinkle! I LOVE seeing people light up about absolutely anything that really gets them excited, the smirk comes, they eyes twinkle and you can just see their joy.

 

[DownByTheRiver]

In order to NOT cannibalize (haha) a zombie thread (What makes a man sexy?), I put forth this question on behalf of @1994.



So women of TAM...what qualities do you find "exciting" in a man? Regale us!

Creativity, style, talent, literate, charm, wit, confident.

 

[suburbanmom]

Accidentally posted on the old thread but the short version: confidence and a sense of humor. Not just in terms of being funny, but also in terms of not being too uptight or taking himself too seriously.

 

[frusdil]

The sexiest man in the world is one who's mother is dead

 

[Affaircare]

I have loved tall men and short men, big men and small men, bearded men and clean-shaven men, smart men and simple men, farmers and suits, blonds and brunettes and redheads, dark mocha skinned to pale pasty white, brown eyes and blue eyes, and to be honest men and women!

What I find attractive is that I get to know the person and love them. I don’t usually get attracted to a certain specific “type”. It’s not looks at all. I get attracted to someone’s wit for sure! I tend to like someone near INFP so we “get” each other. I like someone who has a Babylon Bee sense of humor—sarcastic and yet intelligently funny. I like eyes because they’re the window to the soul. I like a person who I can respect who handles their own ****. I confess—I do like someone with whom I can adventure (a partner in crime). I like a person with a spiritual life, but I trust them to handle that themselves.

It’s funny, isn’t it? I’m just not all that attracted physically initially. I’m pretty visual but after I love the person, I see them as beautiful and feel attracted!

 

[DaringGreatly]

There are lots of physically attractive pretty boys out there but what makes a man sexy to me is 'not being a man child'.

I think most women dread becoming a Mummy to a fully grown man the way men dread being married to a fat troll.

A man who looks like he can do his share of the relationship.

This

Is not sexy.

Get your personal health tip top, get your personal wealth under control and spend your time wisely and you will walk with a swagger that will turn any women's head.

Also have integrity and a sense of fun. Tantrums and lies are for toddlers.

 

[Mr.Married]

The sexiest man in the world is one who's mother is dead

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One wiff of the stiff and they will be dying to get to you !!!!

 

[Melinda82]

I've always been most attracted to tall men. Men who are taller and stronger than me are sexy and exciting--if they also have a kind and caring nature and would only use that strength to protect, never to intimidate or harm. I like men who can do any physical task that needs to be done outside--build a fence, chop down a tree, etc. (My husband is in trouble if I meet any cowboys!) Also men are exciting when they smile and tease with a twinkle in their eye while sharing witty banter. If a man can't make me laugh, I'm not interested!

 

[Laurentium]

The sexiest man in the world is one who's mother is dead

Deep!

 

[Mr.Married]

Deep!

In the ground ……

 

[D0nnivain]

Exciting: a man of mystery who is incredibly self confident to the point of almost being c0cky with a wicked, dry sense of humor. Somebody who would conventionally be labeled "a player." Obviously that type of man makes a lousy long term partner.

Attractive is a a whole other ball game. The first part is a bit superficial but for me medium build, dark hair, & light eyes. Somebody with whom I feel an instant chemistry as in I immediately know I want to kiss this guy or more. He has to be both intelligent & quick with a good sense of humor, a solid work ethic & moral.

I tried dating men who were good guys but with whom I never felt that spark. Never worked. For me if attraction wasn't there from the outset it never materialized. After that initial spark if there was substance behind the outward good looks things could deepen but otherwise it just fizzled out usually before the end of the 1st date

 

[Lila]

I am excited by strong (physically and mentally), traditionally masculine men.

Deep voice, masculine in mannerisms and speech pattern, confident, calm, physically affectionate without being rough, more serious than funny, not the life of the party, keeps emotions under control (not quick to anger or cry).

In short, I'm instinctually attracted to the strong but silent type. Not the best for long term relationships as communication is usually nil with these types, but I'm a moth to their flame.

 

[In Absentia]

but for me medium build, dark hair, & light eyes. He has to be both intelligent & quick with a good sense of humor, a solid work ethic & moral.

That's me!

 

[Not]

I'm physically attracted to bigger men, always have been. I think it's an instinctual cave women thing in me. Intelligence, in all it's many forms. I don't care about education. Intelligence isn't produced in a class room. It's either there or it's not and when mixed with a great moral compass my fire gets lit.

I do like the strong silent type but he needs to get more animated when he sees me. So, more open with those he cares for.

 

[so_sweet]

I always liked a take charge kind of guy (not to be mistaken with a guy who always wants to be in charge!) and one who made me feel like I'm the only woman in the world--I love hard, I'm head over heels forever and I want the same in return. I still get butterflies with my husband and he's a sight for sore eyes when he gets home from work and I'm excited to see him. In short, I guess a man who excites me is one who loves me the same way as I love him and is as passionate as I am in showing it. Thankfully, my husband is like this!

The downside to this (being so passionate) is that arguments can also be "passionate" (get quite heated!) and in our younger years, we had some doozies! But making up was always fun! lol 😊

And sort of related -- what always caught my eye was a man's shoes. He could be wearing an old pair of jeans and a t-shirt that had seen better days, but if his shoes were nice and in good condition, that said a lot. Very scuffed up or worn out shoes (or ones with holes, eek!) told a different story!

 

[Ragnar Ragnasson]

So, ladies, which is your favorite actor that played James Bond?

 

[Lila]

So, ladies, which is your favorite actor that played James Bond?

Daniel Craig all of the way

 

[suburbanmom]

Another vote for Daniel Craig, 100%!!

 

[RandomDude]

Daniel Craig all of the way

Another vote for Daniel Craig, 100%!!

Ask and you shall recieve...

Bet you won't complain about his shirtless pic 😅