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I personally find body builders a huge turn off. Also, as I am only 5'2", it does not matter to me a man's height. As long as a man keeps himself clean and dresses nice, I find myself more attracted to personality, intelligence and humor than a man's physique. However, although I like to go for long walks and such, I'm not a big exercise person.
 

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There is very little effort between these two pictures, actually. Maybe a month of gym time?
I feel he's looking at closer to a year. Maybe he could shave a little time off depending on what help he uses. Losing the body fat and adding mass like that requires a strict clean diet and smart routine with supplements. Since he's wealthy he can afford a great diet, good trainers, and the time to devote to it.

(I never cycled but was accused of it. [No humble brag intended.] I admit to using legally prescribed adderall though.)
 

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Of course I care about my husband's fitness and body. It's really hard to understand how any woman wouldn't care about it???

I am 5'9", so I would like a guy that is at least 5'9"-1/2. I suppose that's "prejudice", but I feel uncomfortable and less feminine if I'm the taller person. I speak from experience. My husband is well over 6'. I appreciate it every day.

I have found men shorter than me to be good looking and have nice bodies; but I feel too "big" standing next to them. It's not a good feeling.

I think really skinny men are the most beautiful. Concentration camp + 20lbs. The guys with xylophone chests. I don't know why.

My H was very thin when we met. Not so much anymore. I'm still attracted to him. He has beautiful facial features. I feel lesser than him in "beauty".

Lately, my attraction seems to have gone up a lot; but it's mostly been a desire for sex. It's not as bad as it was 2 or 3 years ago though, so that's good.



Regarding bandit45 posting the comparison pics of two different women as an example of what he thought was attractive? I have to say, the very larger gal in the bottom pic is "fair game" as far as I'm concerned. If you are in a public place displaying your body; anyone can take a picture of you. That gives us all something to think about. And this is probably going to get much more widespread.

If she was in her pool in her backyard----that is different, if you are on your own private property, no-one should be taking pictures of you "over the fence" so-to-speak, and uploading them online.
 

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I guess it is a good thing I got married when I did. I was 6ft back in the day but have slowly shrunk down to 5'11" now, so I am in total loser range now :mad:
Omg - I just went to the doctor last week to refill my crazy pills. The nurse jammed that height thing down hard on the top of my head and reported I was 1/2 inch shorter than Jan 2015. Then I staggered behind her to the examination room carrying my shoes.
 

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I feel he's looking at closer to a year. Maybe he could shave a little time off depending on what help he uses. Losing the body fat and adding mass like that requires a strict clean diet and smart routine with supplements. Since he's wealthy he can afford a great diet, good trainers, and the time to devote to it.

(I never cycled but was accused of it. [No humble brag intended.] I admit to using legally prescribed adderall though.)
Please see my previous replies # 16, 17, 20, 24 and 54.

Though I agree that being wealthy and getting paid to get buff for a movie is a huge motivator and can provide an advantage, that doesn't stop millions of regular people who are just fit beythey desire to be, or because they are recreational athletes.

Also, genetics plays a much bigger role than some people realize. Some goals may be impossible to attain for that reason alone, no matter how much effort is put into fitness. I have a ex who had a lovely buff upper body and arms and chest, but also had chicken legs. He had the natural base to build his chest up to an incredible size, bordering on roid size without the roids, but there was nothing he could have ever done to increase his leg size to match his upper body. For that reason he did not try to increase his chest size in an amount that made him look out of balance.
 

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:rofl::rofl:

That's some serious discipline!
Tell me about it!

I mean one of the big cookies... he asked if I wanted some icecream the other night. I asked what flavor it was. It's the same tub he brought home about a month ago. How is that possible?! :surprise:
 

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There was a time where I would have loved my husband to have gone to the gym with me. It frustrated me that he wouldn't! Until I wised up and respected that's not who he is... and recognized that it doesn't stop me from going and he was still supportive and encouraging of me, even though it wasn't his bag. I haven't been in some time. We both appreciate (and perhaps, take for granted) our base level of fitness to work in the yard, walk and/or hike together.

I loved the response from @Curse of Millhaven on another thread... she is very eloquent indeed. While I find tone and muscle (and Wolverine haha) physically attractive, it's not the only state of physical attraction for me. Reasonable balance of habits and approach to health would be important to me and physical appearance may reflect that, which is where the habits and behaviors come in. And yet, it's the vibe of a person that draws me in most of all.
 

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Perhaps someone who is naturally LD doesn't necessarily notice more or less of what they are sexually attracted to? Maybe they don't feel that "thump" in their heart (or genitals) when they see someone who they are attracted to?

I think that is true for asexual people. If we are on a sexual spectrum, it could be sort of true for LD folks, too maybe?
Sorry, missed this before. If someone gets a "thump" up top or down below whenever they are stimulated by someone else, odds are they are not LD in the first place :wink2:
 

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H is 5'8 and I'm 5'2. I think we fit perfectly together :grin2:
That is probably perfect, that he is half a foot taller than you. Mine is almost a foot taller (10 inches), and it is probably too much.
 

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I personally find body builders a huge turn off. Also, as I am only 5'2", it does not matter to me a man's height. As long as a man keeps himself clean and dresses nice, I find myself more attracted to personality, intelligence and humor than a man's physique. However, although I like to go for long walks and such, I'm not a big exercise person.
This is me, too. I actually get annoyed sometimes at how much time my husband devotes to cycling. It can be kind of selfish.

And I finally saw "The Rock" yesterday. I had heard about him here. Personally, I do not see the appeal, at least from the physical aspect. The article I skimmed through said he is a very nice person, though, so there is that. And that is the most important thing, imo.
 

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I tend to find tall, somewhat stocky, men attractive - all the men in my family are built that way, so it's what I tend to associate most with "manly". That said, I've only dated one man who was over 6' tall, and at 6'4" I found his height very attractive, but his weight was beginning to get away from him. I found his lack of healthy behaviors a bit of a problem and can imagine that if we'd stayed together I might have eventually found myself becoming less attracted to him because of his increasing weight. I don't want a gym rat or a crossfitter, or someone who's so into his body that he won't have fun indulging in great food from time to time. But being unwilling to take care of yourself enough to at least give yourself a chance for a long and healthy life isn't attractive either.

That said, both my ex-husband and my current SO were under 6' (a little under 5'10" and right at 5'11", respectively) but both solidly built. Not a thin runners build, but not muscle-bound either. Average body, I would say. Strong, cuddly, with a little extra weight, but not obese. My SO has a heart condition, so I worry about his body from the standpoint of wanting him to stay healthy enough to be around with me for as long as he can. But we are both foodies and love to cook and to eat. We both enjoy food and dislike the gym and I find that compatibility attractive, even if neither of us are ever going to have very trim physiques. Happily, he seems to feel the same about my size 10-12 self. I don't think either one of us would find it attractive if the other became obese, however.
 
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