I have been married for 2.5 years, but have been with my husband 9 yeas total. He's a great man & so good to me, but he lacks raw passion & desire. We communicate well and I have talked to him about how I feel. He does try, but, well, its jut not "doing" it for me. He seems to love our sex life as I said, we do communicate...I don't know what else I can do. I have always been a highly sexual person, and I fear, he just isn't. I don't want to leave him, for something so shallow, I am just frustrated and feel I am running out of options. I want the fire! Carnal gritty passion. I don't know what else I can do. I don't expect to have crazy hot sex every time, but once in a while isn't too much to ask, is it? He doesn't make me feel desired. A co-worker who flirts with me makes me feel like I am the only woman in the world. He looks at me with such lust and desire that I blush. I have never had that with my husband. I am not having an affair, but lately, its hard not to fantasize about this man who makes me feel so sexy. Money is tight, so counseling is not feasible at this point. Thanks for input/advice.