I need to ask then, do you know what tipping point was?Good question. My W said fix me or she is out. She was serious when she said it. For 20 years my W put up with my nonsense. Not until I truly realized my W stayed the course and hoped/prayed that I would wake up and see how was I handling my marriage did I get it! What an azz I was being. I did a complete 180 and changed for good. She was nothing short of worth my getting my act together. She stood by me for all those years. Our marriage is on a completely new level.
State your case. Mean it when you say it. There is a saying. You need to be willing to lose a marriage to save it. My W was willing to do just that.