This is my first post and first time on this site, I am hoping for some advice or input or anything really.
Some brief history (for what its worth) I have been with my husband for 7 years, he is 27 and I'm 24 we have a 6 year old son. When we were first together we had sex at least 2 times a day, we were always kissing, which led to sex. Then I became pregnant and it halted to several times a week for about 2 years. Then it dropped off to once a week sometimes more. Now, it's maybe once every two weeks with me giving oral (grudging I'll admit) about once a week.
It's not that I'm not attracted to him, its timing mostly. When he's at work I think about sex all the time, I fantasize about where we'll have sex and how. BUT, then our son comes home and I start dinner and then he comes home and I'll start kissing him but he's trying to wind down after work and I feel rejected. Not that we could have sex then anyways, we'd have to wait till after the kiddo goes to bed. But by that time were watching tv and the moment is gone. So basically I want to have sex when we cant and when we can I'm out of the "moment". As I write this down I realize i sound crazy.
He is a wonderful guy and he always tells me I'm better looking/ sexier than the day we met. He is always trying to get me out of my funk, about body image. I have lost weight and feel better about myself now.
In the past and apparently currently, I am making him miserable, he used to be so confident and ****y and now I've made him feel unwanted. He thinks that I am bored with him and at one point in time he seriously though i was cheating, which I didn't, wouldn't and have never even gotten close to. He feels he has to force me to have sex as a chore, which I see his point. I have turned him down so many times over the last couple years that he doesn't even try anymore.
He recently said that he wants to start working out so that I don't leave. And then sent me a text that said "it seams like I'm always forcing you (pertaining to sex) and you wonder why I want to change myself, I feel very mentally sick all the time and I don't tell you because you just treat me like **** because I'm not giving you attention or you act like I'm making it up."
I love him and the last thing I wanted to do was to make him feel bad about himself.
We are (I am) so stuck in a rut I don't know what to do.
I want to have sex more, but I don't know how to, I guess.
Sex just isn't the same it's really not as fun as it used to be and I know we were so young, but I want that fun back. Our lives are just kind of boring now, including our sex life.
Some brief history (for what its worth) I have been with my husband for 7 years, he is 27 and I'm 24 we have a 6 year old son. When we were first together we had sex at least 2 times a day, we were always kissing, which led to sex. Then I became pregnant and it halted to several times a week for about 2 years. Then it dropped off to once a week sometimes more. Now, it's maybe once every two weeks with me giving oral (grudging I'll admit) about once a week.
It's not that I'm not attracted to him, its timing mostly. When he's at work I think about sex all the time, I fantasize about where we'll have sex and how. BUT, then our son comes home and I start dinner and then he comes home and I'll start kissing him but he's trying to wind down after work and I feel rejected. Not that we could have sex then anyways, we'd have to wait till after the kiddo goes to bed. But by that time were watching tv and the moment is gone. So basically I want to have sex when we cant and when we can I'm out of the "moment". As I write this down I realize i sound crazy.
He is a wonderful guy and he always tells me I'm better looking/ sexier than the day we met. He is always trying to get me out of my funk, about body image. I have lost weight and feel better about myself now.
In the past and apparently currently, I am making him miserable, he used to be so confident and ****y and now I've made him feel unwanted. He thinks that I am bored with him and at one point in time he seriously though i was cheating, which I didn't, wouldn't and have never even gotten close to. He feels he has to force me to have sex as a chore, which I see his point. I have turned him down so many times over the last couple years that he doesn't even try anymore.
He recently said that he wants to start working out so that I don't leave. And then sent me a text that said "it seams like I'm always forcing you (pertaining to sex) and you wonder why I want to change myself, I feel very mentally sick all the time and I don't tell you because you just treat me like **** because I'm not giving you attention or you act like I'm making it up."
I love him and the last thing I wanted to do was to make him feel bad about himself.
We are (I am) so stuck in a rut I don't know what to do.
I want to have sex more, but I don't know how to, I guess.
Sex just isn't the same it's really not as fun as it used to be and I know we were so young, but I want that fun back. Our lives are just kind of boring now, including our sex life.