I have been married for nearly a year now. My husband and I have been having problems over various issues. I think I am too dependent on him. I moved states to come to him and I have no family or friends here. Anyways, yesterday something happened that made me really sad. He went out with his friends to a football game for his birthday. They tailgated first which meant drinking. That evening however I had planned and told him for several days now that I had booked a dinner for us as a present to him for his birthday and it was at a very expensive classy place. I had repeatedly asked him not to drink too much cause he would have had to come home and get ready again to go out and I was very excited about it. I was sick and waiting for him all day. He promised me he wouldn't and low and behold he comes home as drunk as he could be, knowing very well what I had asked him. I couldn't go to the game cause I was sick and I was home alone waiting all day for this special evening. He knew I was very excited and had spent a lot of time and effort planning it for HIM. I feel like it shows a tendency for a lack of love, fear and respect for me... I mean he knew it would hurt me. When I had texted him around noon saying 'I hope you are having fun. I wish I was there. Are you enjoying the barbecue? I love you.' He texts me back saying.. 'wish you were here too'. Nothing else..no I love you, or Yes I'm having fun, how are you feeling now?..nothing. Then six hours later he comes home soo drunk. He said he could sober up and he wasnt that drunk just tipsy. I just feel like he doesnt really care for me. He is showing he isnt dependable and immature. I canceled the dinner. i didnt want to go to dinner with him so tired and drunk even if he did sober up a little in the one hour and half or so that we had before dinner time. He said he could sober up and he wasnt that drunk just tipsy. He just went to sleep after that. He probably thanked me inside cause he got to sleep the alcohol off... Who knows if he was even excited about the dinner like I was. Otherwise why would be carelessly get so drunk. Do you think I am overreacting?? I sometimes feel like I need to relax and chill but then again he is no longer in college and he was so drunk he could hardly walk properly and he drove his car. Isnt that so dangerous? Do people still do this? He is in his late 20s now. Isnt he showing me lack of love and respect? Please someone reply back. Thank you.