For people who have been severely affected by partner infidelity (which manifests itself in the form of mental or physical abuse), it is natural to think about revenge on the cheater and AP who destroyed their personality, relationships/marriage, family and caused great trauma to children (if any).
Many (and such people arouse sincere respect) take control of the consequences for their enemies into their own hands. We know what needs to be done: announce a breakup/divorce immediately, serve the cheater with a file (if he/she is a spouse), kick the cheater out of the house, inform HR (if AP is a coworker or a gym coach), reveal the truth to both families, friends and children (in a form they can understand), on social media, etc.
However, not all of us can react correctly to betrayal for various reasons. In addition, even after taking all necessary measures, we cannot control the future fate of the cheater and AP. And we can only hope that they will be punished by God or, more often than not, by so-called karma.
So what is karma really?
Well, first of all, karma is not something supernatural based on religion (for this there is the concept of "God", "devil", punishment for sins, heaven and hell). We all tend to recognize that karma is a certain order of things in our real world that leads to the fact that the "bad" (cheaters and APs) fail (loss of attractiveness, financial ruin, mental and physical problems, illness, low standard of living, failures in relationships, poor relationships with children, abuse, illness and even death, etc.), and betrayed partners and betrayed children thrive and are happy.
Secondly, we all recognize (and this has been proven by life) that karma has a probabilistic character. The visible, felt by us Karma Bus may or may not run over a cheater and/or an AP the way we would like it to be done
And finally, thirdly, our perception of karma in relation to our enemies is purely individual. What we perceive as the failures / punishments of the cheater and the AP, others may not perceive so dramatically or simply not pay attention to the manifestation of what we consider karma.
So, does karma not exist? Is it just our belief in the triumph of justice or our naivety, and that's it?
I don't think so. I believe that there is a rational grain in our belief in karma, which is explained by human psychology and the laws of human behavior in society and with sexual partners.
1. As we know, infidelity in monogamous relationships is the result of a cheater's twisted morality, their persistent character traits that arose in childhood, preteen and teen ages and adolescence under the influence of an untidy family and social environment, school, under the influence of the Internet, cinema, television, literature, which romanticize and justify infidelity for selfish purposes, for profits. Psychologists working in the "reconciliation" industry also contribute.
This morality, the "moral core", cannot be "corrected" by the usual means of modern traditional psychology, IC/MC (conversations, books, the implementation of behavior algorithms, enhanced communication, etc.). To correct morality, the strongest experiences/feelings/emotions are needed, literally turning the human soul inside out, and, of course, the vast majority of cheaters do not experience anything like this, not to mention APs.
So, neither the cheaters nor the APs will change internally with a very high degree of probability after the act of infidelity. Their morals and basic character traits will remain vicious and twisted (skewed).
2. A person's behavior in society and with his partners and family members is determined by their moral principles, manifested in character traits and beliefs. And such a style of behavior that allows a cheater/AP to lie, betray, to be hypocritical and coward will inevitably cause a negative reaction from others, which will certainly affect their success in all areas of life.
Success and failure due to a person's moral qualities are also relative and probabilistic, but in this case, the probability of failure is very significant.
3. The inner world of the cheater/AP, their sensations, feelings and emotions also greatly depend on their morals, beliefs and character traits.
A person with the moral core of a cheater/AP cannot experience true cloudless happiness in a relationship. Sincere joy and romantic love for another person are not available to them. They lack the feeling of unity of a genuine family - with their partner and children.
The elephant will stay in any room, wherever they find themselves. They can try to hide the elephant behind beautiful curtains, pretend that it does not exist, but the elephant will not disappear anyway.
They can say that they are happy and contented, they can demonstrate this on social networks and in communication with others, but they do not know what true happiness and true joy are. They may have experienced something like this before, but after betrayal, it's just not possible.
4 .The children of cheater/AP with their betrayed partner have a huge impact on karma. Their negative view of their parents is always more pronounced and explicit than that of adult victims of cheating. They see and understand everything, they will never fully forgive unfaithful parents and they will certainly never forget their betrayal. And they will pass it on to their own children.
No matter what the cheaters/APs say, their relationship with their children and grandchildren is tainted forever.
They will remain cheaters in the memory of posterity.
5. And of course, future relationships. Knowing about the involvement of a cheater/AP in affairs, it is unlikely that worthy, loyal people will choose them as partners. Those who choose them either know nothing about their infidelities, or they are the same cheaters/APs.
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So, our belief in karma towards betrayers has a solid foundation, although its effect is probabilistic and relative. Many facts from real life, including those reflected on the Internet, prove this.
Of course, the manifestation of karma over a long period of time is becoming more and more likely, which follows from the mathematical theory of probability.
As the Chinese proverb says, "if you sit on the riverbank for a long time, you will see the bodies of your enemies floating by."
But is it worth dedicating our precious and so short life to revenge on the cheater/AP and waiting for the karma bus to run over them?
No, no, and no again!
These people are not worth a single second of our attention, not a single gram of our efforts.
Let them go. Let them do what they want. Let them live and have sex with anyone, let them marry and divorce, let them "thrive."
It's not our problem anymore.
Our problem, our main business, is to find our own happiness, or at least peace and self-confidence.
Our case is to make our children happy (if any).
Our case is to make this world a better place, as best as we know how and can.
Many (and such people arouse sincere respect) take control of the consequences for their enemies into their own hands. We know what needs to be done: announce a breakup/divorce immediately, serve the cheater with a file (if he/she is a spouse), kick the cheater out of the house, inform HR (if AP is a coworker or a gym coach), reveal the truth to both families, friends and children (in a form they can understand), on social media, etc.
However, not all of us can react correctly to betrayal for various reasons. In addition, even after taking all necessary measures, we cannot control the future fate of the cheater and AP. And we can only hope that they will be punished by God or, more often than not, by so-called karma.
So what is karma really?
Well, first of all, karma is not something supernatural based on religion (for this there is the concept of "God", "devil", punishment for sins, heaven and hell). We all tend to recognize that karma is a certain order of things in our real world that leads to the fact that the "bad" (cheaters and APs) fail (loss of attractiveness, financial ruin, mental and physical problems, illness, low standard of living, failures in relationships, poor relationships with children, abuse, illness and even death, etc.), and betrayed partners and betrayed children thrive and are happy.
Secondly, we all recognize (and this has been proven by life) that karma has a probabilistic character. The visible, felt by us Karma Bus may or may not run over a cheater and/or an AP the way we would like it to be done
And finally, thirdly, our perception of karma in relation to our enemies is purely individual. What we perceive as the failures / punishments of the cheater and the AP, others may not perceive so dramatically or simply not pay attention to the manifestation of what we consider karma.
So, does karma not exist? Is it just our belief in the triumph of justice or our naivety, and that's it?
I don't think so. I believe that there is a rational grain in our belief in karma, which is explained by human psychology and the laws of human behavior in society and with sexual partners.
1. As we know, infidelity in monogamous relationships is the result of a cheater's twisted morality, their persistent character traits that arose in childhood, preteen and teen ages and adolescence under the influence of an untidy family and social environment, school, under the influence of the Internet, cinema, television, literature, which romanticize and justify infidelity for selfish purposes, for profits. Psychologists working in the "reconciliation" industry also contribute.
This morality, the "moral core", cannot be "corrected" by the usual means of modern traditional psychology, IC/MC (conversations, books, the implementation of behavior algorithms, enhanced communication, etc.). To correct morality, the strongest experiences/feelings/emotions are needed, literally turning the human soul inside out, and, of course, the vast majority of cheaters do not experience anything like this, not to mention APs.
So, neither the cheaters nor the APs will change internally with a very high degree of probability after the act of infidelity. Their morals and basic character traits will remain vicious and twisted (skewed).
2. A person's behavior in society and with his partners and family members is determined by their moral principles, manifested in character traits and beliefs. And such a style of behavior that allows a cheater/AP to lie, betray, to be hypocritical and coward will inevitably cause a negative reaction from others, which will certainly affect their success in all areas of life.
Success and failure due to a person's moral qualities are also relative and probabilistic, but in this case, the probability of failure is very significant.
3. The inner world of the cheater/AP, their sensations, feelings and emotions also greatly depend on their morals, beliefs and character traits.
A person with the moral core of a cheater/AP cannot experience true cloudless happiness in a relationship. Sincere joy and romantic love for another person are not available to them. They lack the feeling of unity of a genuine family - with their partner and children.
The elephant will stay in any room, wherever they find themselves. They can try to hide the elephant behind beautiful curtains, pretend that it does not exist, but the elephant will not disappear anyway.
They can say that they are happy and contented, they can demonstrate this on social networks and in communication with others, but they do not know what true happiness and true joy are. They may have experienced something like this before, but after betrayal, it's just not possible.
4 .The children of cheater/AP with their betrayed partner have a huge impact on karma. Their negative view of their parents is always more pronounced and explicit than that of adult victims of cheating. They see and understand everything, they will never fully forgive unfaithful parents and they will certainly never forget their betrayal. And they will pass it on to their own children.
No matter what the cheaters/APs say, their relationship with their children and grandchildren is tainted forever.
They will remain cheaters in the memory of posterity.
5. And of course, future relationships. Knowing about the involvement of a cheater/AP in affairs, it is unlikely that worthy, loyal people will choose them as partners. Those who choose them either know nothing about their infidelities, or they are the same cheaters/APs.
…………………………………………………..
So, our belief in karma towards betrayers has a solid foundation, although its effect is probabilistic and relative. Many facts from real life, including those reflected on the Internet, prove this.
Of course, the manifestation of karma over a long period of time is becoming more and more likely, which follows from the mathematical theory of probability.
As the Chinese proverb says, "if you sit on the riverbank for a long time, you will see the bodies of your enemies floating by."
But is it worth dedicating our precious and so short life to revenge on the cheater/AP and waiting for the karma bus to run over them?
No, no, and no again!
These people are not worth a single second of our attention, not a single gram of our efforts.
Let them go. Let them do what they want. Let them live and have sex with anyone, let them marry and divorce, let them "thrive."
It's not our problem anymore.
Our problem, our main business, is to find our own happiness, or at least peace and self-confidence.
Our case is to make our children happy (if any).
Our case is to make this world a better place, as best as we know how and can.
. In my old job i was legendary for the petulant retribution I unleashed on management 
