Two weeks ago my husband of almost seven years said he wants a divorce. It blew my mind away. Four years ago he got it into his head to move to another state to meet family that never showed interest in him before. I went even though it meant leaving behind everyone and everything I have ever known. It was good at first, I had a job and made some friends but within a year my health went downhill and both work and friends disappeared. He had been so incredibly supportive the first year and a half when my health declined but then his additude shifted. I could see he was stressed and smothered by my neediness. So the past couple months I've been supportive to his desire to go out on the weekends, hang out with friends. I just had two rules: not to drink too much because I needed him sober if I had to go to the hospital and to respect the time we agreed on to be home, if for some reason he found he wasn't going to make it to call me and let me know. Well, one night he didn't stick to the rules and I was very angery and hurt. I told him I had to focus my energy on my health and didn't have any this time to fix this...that I needed him to be on board and if he couldn't he had to let me know. I didn't expect for him to really be done with me. He says he's been unhappy for months but didn't say anything and was hoping it would change. How could it change if I didn't know there was a problem? I am so crushed right now but I can't afford to wallow in it. I will be moving back home in a week. How many others have gone through a seperation or divorce they were caught completely off gaurd? How did you handle it?