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I am one of those people that remember every little detail from my past. Or at least better then most people. Some times when doing a little soul searching I think about some really old crap. Things that bothered me that never got resolved. I just hate unresolved crap, big or small, I like to know the answer even if it hurts me.
Yeah now to the stupid thing..... Just before my wife started dating me she went out with this guy. She wrote his name on her shoes, you know the "I heart xyz," We dated for three years and these stupid shoes bugged me. She gave me an excuse that these shoes were special to her because her grandmother gave them to her, they were just sneakers. I bought her other sneakers but for some reason they were never as comfortable. Anyways about eight years later her ex boyfriend was is town and wanted to visit (five years after we married.) She was still wearing these shoes, never seen a pair last so long. So anyways before he showed up I joked with her that perhaps she could wear these shoes for him since she always had them on anyways.
So anyways, she always said that it was no big deal about these shoes but it always bugged me she was going every place with some other guys name on her shoes, even years after we married. You want to talk about a turn off.... Hey babe lets head up stairs, lay back, let me take those shoes off...Umm never mind. I was always belittled for bringing this subject up so I stopped. I do not understand why she could not just get creative and put my name on them instead. Looking back on her other actions and the way she has treated me I wonder why she is with me? Am I somebody she just settled for?
What do you guys think? This is how most of my marriage is. Always discounting my feelings. Am I a too sensitive guy?
Yeah now to the stupid thing..... Just before my wife started dating me she went out with this guy. She wrote his name on her shoes, you know the "I heart xyz," We dated for three years and these stupid shoes bugged me. She gave me an excuse that these shoes were special to her because her grandmother gave them to her, they were just sneakers. I bought her other sneakers but for some reason they were never as comfortable. Anyways about eight years later her ex boyfriend was is town and wanted to visit (five years after we married.) She was still wearing these shoes, never seen a pair last so long. So anyways before he showed up I joked with her that perhaps she could wear these shoes for him since she always had them on anyways.
So anyways, she always said that it was no big deal about these shoes but it always bugged me she was going every place with some other guys name on her shoes, even years after we married. You want to talk about a turn off.... Hey babe lets head up stairs, lay back, let me take those shoes off...Umm never mind. I was always belittled for bringing this subject up so I stopped. I do not understand why she could not just get creative and put my name on them instead. Looking back on her other actions and the way she has treated me I wonder why she is with me? Am I somebody she just settled for?
What do you guys think? This is how most of my marriage is. Always discounting my feelings. Am I a too sensitive guy?