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I have absolutely no emotional support system except here. Nobody to be that place I put my thoughts and get feedback so I can see things more objectively.

I have no friends to talk things over with, or understand my gut wrenching turmoil. No family to do this, either.

I guess I'm going to risk staying here. I hope you'll all be able to put up with me.

And a big Thank You to those who have already. You have no idea what it has done for me, personally.
 

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Glad you're staying!

To keep prying eyes from seeing where you've been, don't forget to delete the browser history!
 

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Hey geezer, I have never replied any of your posts, nor have I hit that "like" button, BUT, I read your posts. I am listening. You got a friend here.
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Hey geezer, I have never replied any of your posts, nor have I hit that "like" button, BUT, I read your posts. I am listening. You got a friend here.
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Some of the best posters are the ones that don't "like" my posts and I don't "like" their posts very often, because they challenge me, my perceptions and my assumptions.

There is great value in that, even if I don't particualrly like what I am reading.
 

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Some of the best posters are the ones that don't "like" my posts and I don't "like" their posts very often, because they challenge me, my perceptions and my assumptions.

There is great value in that, even if I don't particualrly like what I am reading.
Totally agree. I got hit with some serious 2x4's when I first came here last year. I didn't like what I heard either but I took a deep breath and listened anyway. The majority saw something in me that I myself couldn't. It wasn't just ONE poster it was several.

Now that I'm past this I'm eternally grateful for their bluntness. They yes challenged me and my perceptions. I'm now able to look at myself more clearly thanks to the people here. I'm very happy.
 

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I have absolutely no emotional support system except here. Nobody to be that place I put my thoughts and get feedback so I can see things more objectively.

I have no friends to talk things over with, or understand my gut wrenching turmoil. No family to do this, either.

I guess I'm going to risk staying here. I hope you'll all be able to put up with me.

And a big Thank You to those who have already. You have no idea what it has done for me, personally.
I'm in the same boat.

look at it this way,are you better served getting impartial unbiased advice from strangers or are you better served getting a pat on the back and possibly skewed views from friends and family?Never was much on getting advice from people I personally know.
 

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I'm in the same boat.

look at it this way,are you better served getting impartial unbiased advice from strangers or are you better served getting a pat on the back and possibly skewed views from friends and family?Never was much on getting advice from people I personally know.
I get the most insights from figuring out answers and reading what I write myself.

Often it seems different to read it back to myself than what I remember from when I wrote it. I also "see" myself what other people write. Not often, though. I'm a very unique individual. I'm not saying my experience is all that unique... Just that I am.
 

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I have absolutely no emotional support system except here. Nobody to be that place I put my thoughts and get feedback so I can see things more objectively.

I have no friends to talk things over with, or understand my gut wrenching turmoil. No family to do this, either.

I guess I'm going to risk staying here. I hope you'll all be able to put up with me.

And a big Thank You to those who have already. You have no idea what it has done for me, personally.
Glad you found this place. We all deserve a place where we can be heard, find relief, refreshment, camaraderie, challenge, and help.
 

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How about counseling?

While I really like TAM, here's the problem I can see. We come here and vent. We get support, feel better, then go back to the situation that caused the venting to begin with.

The venting here replaces the venting we should do with our spouse.

The support you get here means nothing if you can't turn around, take it home and apply it to your own situation. If you are doing that, then TAM has served its purpose.
 
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