I read the website not the book (it was eerily correct in my current situation)... and was going to buy it but thought.. will it give me ANSWERS as to what I should do about these feelings. I am having an A.. I have no sexual desire for my husband..at one point i thought there must be something wrong with me. I prayed cried and begged god to give it to me for my husband. but nothing. My husband is a good man but emotionally he is absent (unless he is angry or depressed which his often) we have been together for 8 years one child. and the OM tells me he loves me. I felt I was in-love with him until tonight reading that damn website. INFATUATION.. wow. OM and I are so much a like.. we talk about everything under the sun. we just mesh. H and I really don't have much in common. I know when I married him I was at a stage where I felt I wanted to settle down and did just that settled. I wanted to leave my H even before I had the A. But the guilt of knowing I would DESTROY him has kept me with him. I have explained to him that Im not in love.. no sexual desire.. I mean I tried to leave but..he was so miserable crying begging that all I could do was think how I would feel if I were him and it KILLS ME INSIDE! So I stay. I HATE feeling this way. I HATE that I am cheating. I want to stop but I relate to the addiction part.. the High I get. The feeling alive part, and the sexual desire I have for OM i don't have for H. It so Cruel and unfair. Why cant I have that for my husband dammit!! I swear sometimes I pray that I go to sleep and wake up wanting my H the way I want the OM. I'm 38 an this is my second marriage. My 1st marriage I was In love and was abused mentally and physically. 1st H was controlling and did not respect me and I eventually left. It devastated me. I feel I married this one because I knew I wasn't in love and could never be hurt like that again. This book is depressing because he seems there is no hope. I truly feel that with the OM I would not desire another. But would he? I can't bare the heartbreak... This LOVE MARRIAGE crap SUCKS!!!!!!!! Sometimes I feel that maybe I should just be single. What am I to do..I am Unhappy in my marriage... should I just stay to make H happy? Should I leave an be by myself... should I continue with OM after leaving... I need mental help I think.. Whoever said this was like a mental illness I think was partly right.