I am here because I don't know if I'm being an idiot for taking my husband back. We've been together for 13 years and he's had two affairs (as far as I know). We didn't grow apart, we have no children so we spent a lot of time together, having fun. Although there is a lot to it than I have time to explain (I also don't want to bore you to death). Jist: The last girl he had an affair with was a mutual friend and it was a full blown relationship. Ouch. I left as soon as I found out, was gone for eight months, in which they didn't even end up together. I've seen pictures, toys, love poems,emails, etc... they had together, most of the time while I was at work and he wasn't going into work. I went back because he came to me seemingly changed and we went to marriage counseling, it worked for a while, but my insecurities and bad dreams, they won't go away. I'm not a "throw it in your face" person, but I can't talk to him when I feel this way(I tried once) - he gets defensive and says "get over it". Ouch. I'm not sure I can live like this. It is my problem now, because I am the one who has something to get over, when will I get over it? It's been almost a year since we've reconciled. Sorry for the babble.