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Basically told her that I can't go on like that, feeling the most undesired, faulty person on earth.
She said there are a lot of things about me that bother her and she needs to ignore all the time.
I said then either you learn how to deal with them, or you decide they are too much to deal with and leave.
You just CAN'T keep for couple of years of our marriage to keep criticizing, pointing out flaws, yelling, name calling, etc. etc. and still expect me to think that you love me and you don't say here just because I am a good provider for your needs and take care of our kids.
In truth, she really needs help. Her emotions all over the place. I told her that, and begged her enough times to seek some help. But she wouldn't, instead living a life of anger bursts...
It's not going to go to divorce, because we are both not going to. But I am going to make this point enough times till she gets it. I don't want a divorce either. I want her to heal. Sometimes I think that having a wife with emotional issues is no different than having a wife with physical issues - would you leave your wife because of it?
And of course setting bounderies. Today she wanted me to do something, saying how I am so sloppy. I said well, if you talk like that I am not doing it, and started to walk away - she run after me with the thing in the hand so I'd do it.
I truly feel bad for her. But no one can help her besides herself. All I can do is to protect myself not to get hurt in the process.
She said there are a lot of things about me that bother her and she needs to ignore all the time.
I said then either you learn how to deal with them, or you decide they are too much to deal with and leave.
You just CAN'T keep for couple of years of our marriage to keep criticizing, pointing out flaws, yelling, name calling, etc. etc. and still expect me to think that you love me and you don't say here just because I am a good provider for your needs and take care of our kids.
In truth, she really needs help. Her emotions all over the place. I told her that, and begged her enough times to seek some help. But she wouldn't, instead living a life of anger bursts...
It's not going to go to divorce, because we are both not going to. But I am going to make this point enough times till she gets it. I don't want a divorce either. I want her to heal. Sometimes I think that having a wife with emotional issues is no different than having a wife with physical issues - would you leave your wife because of it?
And of course setting bounderies. Today she wanted me to do something, saying how I am so sloppy. I said well, if you talk like that I am not doing it, and started to walk away - she run after me with the thing in the hand so I'd do it.
I truly feel bad for her. But no one can help her besides herself. All I can do is to protect myself not to get hurt in the process.