I am the one who wrote "Fiance suffers from Anxiety, Depression and Chronic Pain"
To night I am just flustered. My fiance and I have been going through a tough time lately. I went away this weekend on a trip and just for some reason thought that since I was away that maybe the time apart would maybe give us both sometime to relax and bit and start fresh when I got home. Wrong.
When I left on Friday, I thought that I would try to lift her spirits a little, so I post on her Facebook wall a nice little note about how I much I loved her and appreciated her. If anything I thought she would hit the like button. Not a response, like a never put there, never said a word. Couldn't tell you if she appreciated it or despised me for hit. It was a little bummer to say the least.
Tonight I get home from my trip and wasn't in the door very long and could tell something was up. So I waited patiently and then it came out. Apparently, my mother who dropped my son off this morning made some comment to her and got her all upset. There went my hopes of starting fresh this week.
My fiance has always had trouble with my mother.
A little about my mother, she grew up with an abusive alcoholic father and those affects have followed her through her life. Growing up she was very hard on my sister and I, but over the years we have just grown used to her and now when I need to I just put her in her place in gentle way, if possible. She can be very hard and sometimes can say things in a tone or way that stings a little. I'm used to it and igore it most of the time. On the other hand my mother can be one of the most giving and loving people you would ever meet. She just complex and we love her for who she is. I know she does a few issues with my fiance in the fact that she feels my fiance has taken a little more than she has given. Overall, she has always treated my fiance with respect.
I couldn't believe when she said to me "So what have you said to your mother about me lately", it's like holy crap, now what. Truthfully, I don't say much to my mother about our relationship. So here I am stunned, more so that I thought maybe we just might start fresh, but now my mother has got her all upset. So I tried to talk to her about, but now she said she's done talking, because "she tried to share with me and all I did was get upset". Yes, I did, it just took me by surprise thats all and it's my fault because she tried to share and I got bent out of shape.
I have apologized for my mother since we met, she is who she is and not much we can do to change her now.
I feel like I'm going crazy and she's up lying on the couch not talking to me. Maybe I do need to listen better and keep my mouth shut. Just looking for thoughts.