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Id assume she is tired of hearing a plan and is ready to see actions. This is so fixable and as a wife of someone with this same issue, I get pretty pissed off when he isn’t staying compliant with his treatment.
Dr could have called in a script right then and he would be GTG now.

I understand guys being pissed at wives who refuse HRT after menopause or hystorectomy and they are good w/o sex because they do not want it any more. Either sex to me is a divorce worthy issue if they refuse to correct it.
 

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Id assume she is tired of hearing a plan and is ready to see actions. This is so fixable and as a wife of someone with this same issue, I get pretty pissed off when he isn’t staying compliant with his treatment.
That's kind of where I was going. There's definitely things he's leaving out.
 

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Ten years or so for me as well. Finding a doctor that’s good with testosterone is really hard.
I found I had to basically grab my doctor and tell him I no longer wanted sex and he got the idea and sent me to a urologist.
 
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It’s a shame it’s so difficult for a man to find good treatment for low testosterone.
It's a weird situation.
I've been on TRT for years and years.
It took me months to finally figure out that I had to go the path of saying that I no longer wanted sex to get any traction.

No one wants to admit that issue for men.
I've had female GP in the time I've been on TRT and they treat it the same as a male - almost out of sight out of mind.
So it's not a female vs. male issue - it's how the GP are trained and educated about low T.

The sad thing is Low T leads to:
1) Cancer (prostate mainly but study's show other cancers as well)
2) Dementia
3) Alzheimer's
4) Lowering of cognitive activity
5) Depression
6) Bone density
7) Muscle growth



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It's a weird situation.
I've been on TRT for years and years.
It took me months to finally figure out that I had to go the path of saying that I no longer wanted sex to get any traction.

No one wants to admit that issue for men.
I've had female GP in the time I've been on TRT and they treat it the same as a male - almost out of sight out of mind.
So it's not a female vs. male issue - it's how the GP are trained and educated about low T.

The sad thing is Low T leads to:
1) Cancer (prostate mainly but study's show other cancers as well)
2) Dementia
3) Alzheimer's
4) Lowering of cognitive activity
5) Depression
6) Bone density
7) Muscle growth



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I never had a problem getting treatment but I had a huge problem finding good treatment. Too many doctors think getting a shot once every 2-3 weeks is good and it’s not. I’m now using a urologist that’s almost six hours away from me and it’s well worth it.

And you’re right, low t is more than just a sexual problem, it affects so much stuff.
 

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It's a weird situation.
I've been on TRT for years and years.
It took me months to finally figure out that I had to go the path of saying that I no longer wanted sex to get any traction.

No one wants to admit that issue for men.
I've had female GP in the time I've been on TRT and they treat it the same as a male - almost out of sight out of mind.
So it's not a female vs. male issue - it's how the GP are trained and educated about low T.

The sad thing is Low T leads to:
1) Cancer (prostate mainly but study's show other cancers as well)
2) Dementia
3) Alzheimer's
4) Lowering of cognitive activity
5) Depression
6) Bone density
7) Muscle growth



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These are not true.

Testosterone is a naturally occurring hormone. It does not CAUSE prostate cancer. It will feed an already present tumor just like natural testosterone would. That is why urologists check prolactin/PSA to rule out the reasons a patient would have low testosterone. Since T feeds prostate tumors, that would be a reason why it would be low.

TRT increases bone density and improves cognitive abilities. Idk where you got this information but it simply isn’t true. Men need their levels at a certain level to properly function. It isn’t just the magic penis hormone….
 

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Over the past 6-7 months I've noticed a serious drop in my sex drive. I am extremely attracted to my wife and our sex life, up to this point, has always been healthy. I went in for my annual physical back in April and mentioned this to my doctor. He ran a blood test and found my testosterone levels are low. I am about to see an endocrinologist to get on a treatment plan. I told my wife what the problem was and that it was definitely not her that's causing my struggle. I even showed her the digital test results and she heard the call when the doctor's office called to go over the results with me. She is now guilting me for not being interested in sex with her and she thinks I'm not attracted to her. I have tried over and over again to tell her that this is because of the low T and that when I get on my treatment plan things will get back to where they should be. I don't know what else to do to prove to her that I am still in love with her and attracted to her and that the low T is making sex very difficult. Anyone else been in this situation?
42, serum level was flagged as low at 240 ng/dL.
I am 57 myself and was discovered in my early 40's of having a cyst on my pituitary glad and so my body does not produce any testosterone at all. My total T level got down to as low as 82. I tried all the Rx's the patch and the gel nothing worked. I now for the last 5+ years I have to take a direct injection in the butt once every two weeks. My wife gives me the jab with a 18 gauge needle. I always try and not make her mad on the day she is going to jab me. lol Best of luck!

One thing you need to watch if you have to start taking injections you need to monitor your blood it can get thick as your T begins to rise and could lead to stroke or heart attack if you don't have it checked. I have to go to the local blood center every 2-4 weeks and donate blood to lower my red blood cell count.
 

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It's a weird situation.
I've been on TRT for years and years.
It took me months to finally figure out that I had to go the path of saying that I no longer wanted sex to get any traction.

No one wants to admit that issue for men.
I've had female GP in the time I've been on TRT and they treat it the same as a male - almost out of sight out of mind.
So it's not a female vs. male issue - it's how the GP are trained and educated about low T.

The sad thing is Low T leads to:
1) Cancer (prostate mainly but study's show other cancers as well)
2) Dementia
3) Alzheimer's
4) Lowering of cognitive activity
5) Depression
6) Bone density
7) Muscle growth



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Please show a link to a study that indicates low T leads to prostate cancer.

Prostate cancer thrives on testosterone and one of the most effective ways to slow it down is chemical or surgical castration to lower testosterone. I just recently went through prostate cancer treatment which included 6 months of Lupron induced castration.
 

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I’m female and have had libido loss that became extreme over the past few months. Hormone panel showed several hormone issues as the cause (early perimenopause).
I’m scheduled for my first Sotto Pelle insert this Friday and am excited and hopeful.
My husband has been very understanding throughout it all. Sexually frustrated, but understanding. I’ve been working hard to pinpoint the problem and never even knew about pellets until a month ago.

As for your wife - it’s strange that she would begin her accusatory tirade AFTER you proved to her that it’s hormonal. Does your wife often have dramatic and unreasonable responses, or is this type of dramatic reaction from her new?
Most spouses would be relieved that it’s not personal, and supportive to their spouse’s medical condition.
Then again… there is no fathoming the human mind sometimes… I work at a cancer facility and can relay this terrible fact: 80% of women diagnosed with cancer and 60% of men diagnosed with cancer wind up divorces because their spouse decided to cheat on them while they were in treatment.
I went through prostate cancer treatment last year and now work to support other men who are dealing with prostate cancer. What I see is that men feel they are less masculine and unattractive to their partners and self isolate, pushing the partner away.
 

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Total testosterone is not the whole story. We have a substance in our systems called Sex Hormone Binding Globulin (SHBG). It binds to estrogen and testosterone, making it biologically unavailable for things like libido. I am currently taking boron at the advice of an endocrinologist to suppress my SHBG.

AND testosterone is not needed for sexual function, just for libido. Much of sex is in our minds and erotic fantasy and physical stimulation can replace libido. I was chemically castrate for about 6 months to treat prostate cancer. With my wife's help I produced at least one good erection a day which led to 3 to 4 orgasms per week.

We men normally have about 6 erections in our sleep. This brings in oxygenated blood to the erectile tissue in the penis to keep it healthy. Without this, fibrous tissue develops and the penis will atrophy.

When we are castrate, we do not have the nocturnal erections so my wife and I worked to give me at least one good erection a day while I was castrate to avoid atrophy. Seems to have worked well.
 

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Please show a link to a study that indicates low T leads to prostate cancer.

Prostate cancer thrives on testosterone and one of the most effective ways to slow it down is chemical or surgical castration to lower testosterone. I just recently went through prostate cancer treatment which included 6 months of Lupron induced castration.
If you have LowT it can lead to prostate cancer.
National Library of medicine there are a bunch of articles on this page as well.
Review of health risks of low testosterone and testosterone administration
Testosterone and prostate cancer: an evidence-based review of pathogenesis and oncologic risk
There's tons more.
Ask your urologist, endocrinologist, possibly your oncologist will have this information as well.


I do know that treatment for prostate cancer (I believe there a few other cancers as well) does require lower testosterone in order to treat the cancer.

My urologist several years ago linked me to several studies where low testosterone is now being linked as the cause of many issues with males.
It's up there with the finding that poor dental heath can lead to cardiovascular issues as well as respiratory infections, dementia, ed, and cancer.
 

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My understanding is that testosterone levels vary broadly so one test really means nothing.

I’d get in shape and start some serious strength training before I’d start popping pills. I’d also refrain from porn, masturbation, and couch potato-ing. All these things can just wreck a man IMO.
You won't get one test.

There will be several tests to validate your actual levels.

BTW:
Porn has nothing to do with lowT.
Matter of fact, if you have lowT there is a high probability that you no longer care about porn.
Masturbation has nothing to do with LowT either.

Strength training helps to a degree. You have to be really serious about the type of training.
Getting in shape is also a factor in helping raise your TLevels.

It's best to talk with a specialist and get everything double and triple checked.
 

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These are not true.

Testosterone is a naturally occurring hormone. It does not CAUSE prostate cancer. It will feed an already present tumor just like natural testosterone would.
I never said testosterone causes cancer.
Low Testosterone can lead to prostate cancer.


TRT increases bone density and improves cognitive abilities. Idk where you got this information but it simply isn’t true. Men need their levels at a certain level to properly function.
I see the issue at hand.
Muscle growth and bone density - It should have been lack of muscle growth and lowering of bone density
Never post when you have had little sleep because you forget to proof read what you wrote.

1) Cancer (prostate mainly but studys show other cancers as well)
2) Dementia
3) Alzheimer's
4) Lowering of cognitive activity
5) Depression
Still stands - quick google search will bring up this information on how LowT affects the above list.


It isn’t just the magic penis hormone….
My point was that I was having an issue getting my GP to agree to test me for lowT.
I had to state that I no longer wanted sex in order to get the GP to listen to me.
 

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Over the past 6-7 months I've noticed a serious drop in my sex drive. I am extremely attracted to my wife and our sex life, up to this point, has always been healthy. I went in for my annual physical back in April and mentioned this to my doctor. He ran a blood test and found my testosterone levels are low. I am about to see an endocrinologist to get on a treatment plan. I told my wife what the problem was and that it was definitely not her that's causing my struggle. I even showed her the digital test results and she heard the call when the doctor's office called to go over the results with me. She is now guilting me for not being interested in sex with her and she thinks I'm not attracted to her. I have tried over and over again to tell her that this is because of the low T and that when I get on my treatment plan things will get back to where they should be. I don't know what else to do to prove to her that I am still in love with her and attracted to her and that the low T is making sex very difficult. Anyone else been in this situation?
Take up weight training. Weight training increases Testosterone.
 

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You won't get one test.

There will be several tests to validate your actual levels.

BTW:
Porn has nothing to do with lowT.
Matter of fact, if you have lowT there is a high probability that you no longer care about porn.
Masturbation has nothing to do with LowT either.

Strength training helps to a degree. You have to be really serious about the type of training.
Getting in shape is also a factor in helping raise your TLevels.

It's best to talk with a specialist and get everything double and triple checked.
OP indicated one blood test.

Porn and masturbation satiate men… they’re more likely to sleep, eat, sit on the couch, get lazy… Self denial makes men 💪
 
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