How old are you, and what is your level?Over the past 6-7 months I've noticed a serious drop in my sex drive. I am extremely attracted to my wife and our sex life, up to this point, has always been healthy. I went in for my annual physical back in April and mentioned this to my doctor. He ran a blood test and found my testosterone levels are low. I am about to see an endocrinologist to get on a treatment plan. I told my wife what the problem was and that it was definitely not her that's causing my struggle. I even showed her the digital test results and she heard the call when the doctor's office called to go over the results with me. She is now guilting me for not being interested in sex with her and she thinks I'm not attracted to her. I have tried over and over again to tell her that this is because of the low T and that when I get on my treatment plan things will get back to where they should be. I don't know what else to do to prove to her that I am still in love with her and attracted to her and that the low T is making sex very difficult. Anyone else been in this situation?
Just found out I have low testosterone
Over the past 6-7 months I've noticed a serious drop in my sex drive. I am extremely attracted to my wife and our sex life, up to this point, has always been healthy. I went in for my annual physical back in April and mentioned this to my doctor. He ran a blood test and found my testosterone levels are low. I am about to see an endocrinologist to get on a treatment plan. I told my wife what the problem was and that it was definitely not her that's causing my struggle. I even showed her the digital test results and she heard the call when the doctor's office called to go over the results with me. She is now guilting me for not being interested in sex with her and she thinks I'm not attracted to her. I have tried over and over again to tell her that this is because of the low T and that when I get on my treatment plan things will get back to where they should be. I don't know what else to do to prove to her that I am still in love with her and attracted to her and that the low T is making sex very difficult. Anyone else been in this situation?
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How old are you, and what is your level?
Not with the wife guilt part, but low T and low desire. I get pellets every few months, things back to normal for me.
Welcome to the club. I get shots twice a week. I wasn't myself for a few years before the cause was discovered. It took quite a while and a doctor change to get my treatment just right.
42, serum level was flagged as low at 240 ng/dL.How old are you, and what is your level?
Another vote for pellets. Loving someone (like a family member) is not related to hormones, Having sexual desire and attraction is related to hormones.Not with the wife guilt part, but low T and low desire. I get pellets every few months, things back to normal for me.
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Dude outside of the wife ***** in’ ....... if I was having issues and found out it was low T then I would be jumping for joy. That’s an easy fix 👍
I have been in this situation beginning a year ago. The PDE5 inhibiting drugs started to be ineffective about 1/4 of the time. And, T testing kept showing "normal" (for my age) numbers. Mine manifested not as a drop in desire inside my head, but seeming no signals making it to the head below my belt. We dealt with it by other means, but the wife prefers PIV.Over the past 6-7 months I've noticed a serious drop in my sex drive. I am extremely attracted to my wife and our sex life, up to this point, has always been healthy. I went in for my annual physical back in April and mentioned this to my doctor. He ran a blood test and found my testosterone levels are low. I am about to see an endocrinologist to get on a treatment plan. I told my wife what the problem was and that it was definitely not her that's causing my struggle. I even showed her the digital test results and she heard the call when the doctor's office called to go over the results with me. She is now guilting me for not being interested in sex with her and she thinks I'm not attracted to her. I have tried over and over again to tell her that this is because of the low T and that when I get on my treatment plan things will get back to where they should be. I don't know what else to do to prove to her that I am still in love with her and attracted to her and that the low T is making sex very difficult. Anyone else been in this situation?
But MY wife was supportive, understanding, caring, loving, patient, all the things a wife SHOULD be. She never would guilt me about anything ever. She went through a year of me undergoing cancer treatment, she was as solid as a rock the whole time. So I have no advice regarding how your wife is acting other than maybe take your wife with you to see the doctor(s), let her hear everything you hear. She needs a little education about how male libido and erections happen. She wouldn't be acting like this if the shoe were on the other foot, which in a few years it could well be when she starts having symptoms from menopause. I think her attitude is a way bigger problem than whatever your T levels are.
Since you are under 60, your doctor ought to be investigating the WHY of testosterone dropping. In my case, T was fine for a 74 year-old male (250-300), so neither my GP, nor an endo, nor first uroglist would help. The problem is, I wasn't satisfied My old urologist caught some tests with very low numbers (5-20), started treating me, and within 3 months things were all back to my desired normal.
So, the doctor can get your motor running in top form and it won't take very long. I inject 150mg Cypionate every two weeks and it works like a charm. Injecting is no big deal and not painful. Every 3 months I get bloodwork to monitor PSA, Hemocrit, T, and free T.
no, because anyone with low T that gets that diagnosis immediately gets testosterone supplement and starts to use it.. Anyone else been in this situation?
since you are "delaying it", having low T is no excuse your wife is going to understand. why are you stalling. get the drugs TODAY, and start using them TODAY!
this is not rocket science, you have a medical condition that is ruining your marriage, and are ***** footing around not getting it treated. i am with your wife on this one
dme.diagnosed with Low T at 37. My #was 223. I could have entire Playmate calender standing in my living room and would want them to move out from in front of TV....if i was awake.
Take .55ml 2x week and now my levels are 1150. Sex 5x a week. Wife is very satisfied.
Take .55ml 2x week and now my levels are 1150. Sex 5x a week. Wife is very satisfied.
Been on T for over a decade now. Ime Most family drs HATE prescribing testosterone. I had to search high and low in mn to find a dr that would treat me. I've been on pellets and shots, ill give myself a weekly shot any day over the gradual up and down of pellets.
Wow! A decade is a long time. You don't mention your age at diagnosis. I am in my mid 70s, and have been giving myself shots for 6 months now.. No longer use any PDE5 inhibitor, my libido is like when was in my 20s. It took awhile to find a doctor who would work with me because had prostate cancer decades ago. The urologist who treated me for cancer ended up being the only one of five doctors who would agree to treat me.Been on T for over a decade now. Ime Most family drs HATE prescribing testosterone. I had to search high and low in mn to find a dr that would treat me. I've been on pellets and shots, ill give myself a weekly shot any day over the gradual up and down of pellets.
My GP still tells me if he had his way, I would stop, says my T was normal low for my age and just need to accept that is part of getting old. Would like to talk with him again when he is older (he is in his 50s) and see if he still believes the same. Or maybe his wife isn't interested in intimacy so he wishes his libido was low.
Ten years or so for me as well. Finding a doctor that’s good with testosterone is really hard.Been on T for over a decade now. Ime Most family drs HATE prescribing testosterone. I had to search high and low in mn to find a dr that would treat me. I've been on pellets and shots, ill give myself a weekly shot any day over the gradual up and down of pellets.
Many doctors are afraid of prescribing testosterone to patients who have undiagnosed prostate cancer. While testosterone will not cause prostate cancer, it will accelerate its growth, if it is present. Some formulations of testosterone are worse than others.Ten years or so for me as well. Finding a doctor that’s good with testosterone is really hard.
I’m female and have had libido loss that became extreme over the past few months. Hormone panel showed several hormone issues as the cause (early perimenopause).
I’m scheduled for my first Sotto Pelle insert this Friday and am excited and hopeful.
My husband has been very understanding throughout it all. Sexually frustrated, but understanding. I’ve been working hard to pinpoint the problem and never even knew about pellets until a month ago.
As for your wife - it’s strange that she would begin her accusatory tirade AFTER you proved to her that it’s hormonal. Does your wife often have dramatic and unreasonable responses, or is this type of dramatic reaction from her new?
Most spouses would be relieved that it’s not personal, and supportive to their spouse’s medical condition.
Then again… there is no fathoming the human mind sometimes… I work at a cancer facility and can relay this terrible fact: 80% of women diagnosed with cancer and 60% of men diagnosed with cancer wind up divorces because their spouse decided to cheat on them while they were in treatment.
I’m scheduled for my first Sotto Pelle insert this Friday and am excited and hopeful.
My husband has been very understanding throughout it all. Sexually frustrated, but understanding. I’ve been working hard to pinpoint the problem and never even knew about pellets until a month ago.
As for your wife - it’s strange that she would begin her accusatory tirade AFTER you proved to her that it’s hormonal. Does your wife often have dramatic and unreasonable responses, or is this type of dramatic reaction from her new?
Most spouses would be relieved that it’s not personal, and supportive to their spouse’s medical condition.
Then again… there is no fathoming the human mind sometimes… I work at a cancer facility and can relay this terrible fact: 80% of women diagnosed with cancer and 60% of men diagnosed with cancer wind up divorces because their spouse decided to cheat on them while they were in treatment.
yeah, like others said, take the drugs, man!
A wife who has no sex life at home is prone to all sorts of bad thinking. keep her satisfied.
A wife who has no sex life at home is prone to all sorts of bad thinking. keep her satisfied.
That is like saying quit taking BP meds as your BP is normal for someone your weight.Wow! A decade is a long time. You don't mention your age at diagnosis. I am in my mid 70s, and have been giving myself shots for 6 months now.. No longer use any PDE5 inhibitor, my libido is like when was in my 20s. It took awhile to find a doctor who would work with me because had prostate cancer decades ago. The urologist who treated me for cancer ended up being the only one of five doctors who would agree to treat me.
My GP still tells me if he had his way, I would stop, says my T was normal low for my age and just need to accept that is part of getting old. Would like to talk with him again when he is older (he is in his 50s) and see if he still believes the same. Or maybe his wife isn't interested in intimacy so he wishes his libido was low.
My GP is leery about prescribing T. I go to urologist younger than me who has low T and takes it himself.
OT, but either gender with no intimacy from the spouse is prone to thinking about options. And it ain't gonna take that long There is a thread elsewhere from a female wondering why hubby lost interest after being provided infrequent duty sex for 16 years of a 20 year marriage.yeah, like others said, take the drugs, man!
A wife who has no sex life at home is prone to all sorts of bad thinking. keep her satisfied.
So, yeah any man who wants to keep a faithful wife better take care of business pronto if hings aren't good in the bedroom. Too many opportunities and temptations in the wild.
I feel like there's more you aren't telling us. It's pretty weird that you say your wife is acting this way AFTER you found a solution.Over the past 6-7 months I've noticed a serious drop in my sex drive. I am extremely attracted to my wife and our sex life, up to this point, has always been healthy. I went in for my annual physical back in April and mentioned this to my doctor. He ran a blood test and found my testosterone levels are low. I am about to see an endocrinologist to get on a treatment plan. I told my wife what the problem was and that it was definitely not her that's causing my struggle. I even showed her the digital test results and she heard the call when the doctor's office called to go over the results with me. She is now guilting me for not being interested in sex with her and she thinks I'm not attracted to her. I have tried over and over again to tell her that this is because of the low T and that when I get on my treatment plan things will get back to where they should be. I don't know what else to do to prove to her that I am still in love with her and attracted to her and that the low T is making sex very difficult. Anyone else been in this situation?
Id assume she is tired of hearing a plan and is ready to see actions. This is so fixable and as a wife of someone with this same issue, I get pretty pissed off when he isn’t staying compliant with his treatment.I feel like there's more you aren't telling us. It's pretty weird that you say your wife is acting this way AFTER you found a solution.
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