Over the past 6-7 months I've noticed a serious drop in my sex drive. I am extremely attracted to my wife and our sex life, up to this point, has always been healthy. I went in for my annual physical back in April and mentioned this to my doctor. He ran a blood test and found my testosterone levels are low. I am about to see an endocrinologist to get on a treatment plan. I told my wife what the problem was and that it was definitely not her that's causing my struggle. I even showed her the digital test results and she heard the call when the doctor's office called to go over the results with me. She is now guilting me for not being interested in sex with her and she thinks I'm not attracted to her. I have tried over and over again to tell her that this is because of the low T and that when I get on my treatment plan things will get back to where they should be. I don't know what else to do to prove to her that I am still in love with her and attracted to her and that the low T is making sex very difficult. Anyone else been in this situation?
I have been in this situation beginning a year ago. The PDE5 inhibiting drugs started to be ineffective about 1/4 of the time. And, T testing kept showing "normal" (for my age) numbers. Mine manifested not as a drop in desire inside my head, but seeming no signals making it to the head below my belt. We dealt with it by other means, but the wife prefers PIV.
But MY wife was supportive, understanding, caring, loving, patient, all the things a wife SHOULD be. She never would guilt me about anything ever. She went through a year of me undergoing cancer treatment, she was as solid as a rock the whole time. So I have no advice regarding how your wife is acting other than maybe take your wife with you to see the doctor(s), let her hear everything you hear. She needs a little education about how male libido and erections happen. She wouldn't be acting like this if the shoe were on the other foot, which in a few years it could well be when she starts having symptoms from menopause. I think her attitude is a way bigger problem than whatever your T levels are.
Since you are under 60, your doctor ought to be investigating the WHY of testosterone dropping. In my case, T was fine for a 74 year-old male (250-300), so neither my GP, nor an endo, nor first uroglist would help. The problem is, I wasn't satisfied My old urologist caught some tests with very low numbers (5-20), started treating me, and within 3 months things were all back to my desired normal.
So, the doctor can get your motor running in top form and it won't take very long. I inject 150mg Cypionate every two weeks and it works like a charm. Injecting is no big deal and not painful. Every 3 months I get bloodwork to monitor PSA, Hemocrit, T, and free T.