I am surprised at the number of people who seem willing to forgive and try again. Not sure I can stomach that. I am putting my ducks in a row in case I can't right the ship. Stay at home W is clinically depressed and on anti-anxiety meds. EA that led to PA has been going on for 3+ months, with extensive phone calls, skype, text, FB, em. No intimacy in months due to her stated lack of libido, but I guess that was just lack of libido for the husband. I suspect she has spent about 5x more time on the phone with the OM than with me. The profession of love to the OM and the comments to the OM that we are roommates is a little much to take under the circumstances (no sh*&, you have been glued to your phone/computer for hours a day and I can't get your attention). W should have been focusing on her health (which is now in question), our 3 girls, ages 5-9, and the home. Now it appears that the single OM, after tasting the forbidden fruit is pulling away. I work and travel a lot, but I am a great provider and good father. So the question, after this rambling is, "do I stay or do I go now." I am fearful our kids will see a very bad and sterile, unloving parental model, and that they may be better off with us divorced. I do fear that someone else could come in and "raise" these kids too (especially with the money she will have), or that she won't do a good job on her own. Interested in hearing from people who tried to move on and succeeded and those who tried and failed. My gut is that it is "Sofargone."