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Long story short, I discovered inadvertently yesterday that my husband of 15 years has been having an EA with his high school sweetheart. I confronted him with the evidence, and he admitted everything. He even told me that he had a previous EA with her two years ago and broke it off because he felt guilty when it got too "hot and heavy". I am devastated. He cried and begged and apologized profusely. He blocked her on facebook and said that he sent her a text telling her I knew everything and that it was over and there had to be NC. He claims that he doesn't love her and that the affair never got physical, but that they just confided in each other about their marriages. He said she gave him attention and they reminisced about old times that were exciting.
I am so sad, so mad, and feel like I'm going to hurl. I also feel very alone. I'm afraid to talk to any of my friends or family, because I want to work things out with him and I know that they will hate his guts and things will never be the same if they know. Although, I don't think things will ever be the same again anyway. I feel so naive. He was married before and his ex-wife cheated on him and crushed his spirit. He swore it was something that he could never to do me, and I believed him. He has called me at work a dozen times today crying and apologizing, saying how stupid he is, and that he'll do anything to make it work with me.
I am numb. And I can't even look at him. I'm so hurt. I have no idea what to do, or what to say. I just want to curl up and make it go away.
I am so sad, so mad, and feel like I'm going to hurl. I also feel very alone. I'm afraid to talk to any of my friends or family, because I want to work things out with him and I know that they will hate his guts and things will never be the same if they know. Although, I don't think things will ever be the same again anyway. I feel so naive. He was married before and his ex-wife cheated on him and crushed his spirit. He swore it was something that he could never to do me, and I believed him. He has called me at work a dozen times today crying and apologizing, saying how stupid he is, and that he'll do anything to make it work with me.
I am numb. And I can't even look at him. I'm so hurt. I have no idea what to do, or what to say. I just want to curl up and make it go away.