Talk to him... Open lines of communication.
Tell him your feelings about the new 20 yearold. Let him know that logically, you know the jealousy might be irrational, but nonetheless, you still feel it.
When He says "I thought this was over." tell him, No.. You are trying to get over it, but it really made you feel insecure in your standing as his wife, as his #1 gal. It might take more time & lots of encouragement from him to really have it "over".
If he says "What do you want me to say?" Tell him that you are wanting him to re-assure you that he does NOT feel any attraction, or any emotions for this gal. You want him to say.. that He is focused on keeping the marriage just between you two.. That a third party will not get thought of again.
Doesn't sound like you two did marriage therapy 4 years ago, did you? Maybe you could suggest it.
Tell him your feelings about the new 20 yearold. Let him know that logically, you know the jealousy might be irrational, but nonetheless, you still feel it.
When He says "I thought this was over." tell him, No.. You are trying to get over it, but it really made you feel insecure in your standing as his wife, as his #1 gal. It might take more time & lots of encouragement from him to really have it "over".
If he says "What do you want me to say?" Tell him that you are wanting him to re-assure you that he does NOT feel any attraction, or any emotions for this gal. You want him to say.. that He is focused on keeping the marriage just between you two.. That a third party will not get thought of again.
Doesn't sound like you two did marriage therapy 4 years ago, did you? Maybe you could suggest it.