so...hoping this is not a direct repeat post (I did search first). My wife has been using vibrators the majority of our relationship, which I am fine with. She does not always love that she needs them to climax, but I would rather her have a climax than go without. In general, I have been (and still am), comfortable with sex toys in our relationship. With that said, I purchased the "Womanizer Pro" toy a few weeks ago, and have been very jealous of it. The first time she used it (we were together), I could tell (after 25 years together), that is was one of the most physically pleasurable sexual experiences she has ever had. That, in itself, did not bother me (it was actually really hot!), but she seemed to "clam up" about it afterwards and did not want to talk about it, has really tried to downplay how well the toy pleasured her, and it really seems she is intentionally trying to not make a big deal of it, almost as if she thinks I will feel inadequate about it. I have always been pro sex toy, so not sure why she would feel this way, but it seems very much the case. I get jealous, almost because it seem she is hiding how she feels from me. To complicate the dialog doing on in my head about this, her normal go to vibrator seems to not really do the trick as often. It works, but a few times it has not, and she ends up reaching for the Womanizer (which would be fine....if I felt she was willing to be open about how much she likes it).
The secrecy is what is really making me uncomfortable. If she just came out and told me the toy was awesome, I think it would just be something fun we have in the bedroom and I would be super happy for her to have great pleasure......but the lack of willingness to be open about it really makes me feel weird. Am I just off on this? I could really use some advise...
The secrecy is what is really making me uncomfortable. If she just came out and told me the toy was awesome, I think it would just be something fun we have in the bedroom and I would be super happy for her to have great pleasure......but the lack of willingness to be open about it really makes me feel weird. Am I just off on this? I could really use some advise...