i don't knowwhat to do! my husband has zero interest in having sex with me. he told me in july, 2009 that i did not interest him anymore, i stank when he tried to give me oral sex, i was too fat, and that is why i caught him cheating online with craigs list hookers. keep in mind my husband of 12 years is almost penis less. i have never gone outside of the marriage because he has always been able to satisfy me orally. i asked him this afternoon for oral sex in return i got told he has no desire at all for sex with me. i should find it elsewhere. should i file for divorce it has been an ongoing issue that he gets crueler and crueler about telling me i could not get anyone better than a looser to have an interest in me. that hurt me so badly i just dont know what to do from here. please advice but dont be cruel.