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We aren't in conflict at the moment - but I was just reading about a wife who fights dirty and someone said to OP, refuse to fight with her. That's a skill I never learned so please help!
I try to leave room or house, I either leave kids behind and am told I'm a bad mom for 'abandoning children' and the taunts continue.
Or I leave and take kids with me and I will 'never take HIS children away from him again!'. And the fight continues.
I'll get called every name in the book and I ignore it to be told that I don't care because I'm not responding.
Reasoning is useless - it gets twisted or the accusations are so ridiculous I will not respond (such as I must be having an affair because I went at 9:00PM to ICU to say goodnight to my gravely ill son for 20 minutes. Who am I having an affair with? The coma patients??)
If I respond with a 'go ahead and leave' when he threatens to leave, oh he leaves for 10 minutes and comes back even more fueled because I didn't care enough to stop him.
I think you're getting the picture.
How does someone not engage in fight without being dismissive and fueling fight?
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I try to leave room or house, I either leave kids behind and am told I'm a bad mom for 'abandoning children' and the taunts continue.
Or I leave and take kids with me and I will 'never take HIS children away from him again!'. And the fight continues.
I'll get called every name in the book and I ignore it to be told that I don't care because I'm not responding.
Reasoning is useless - it gets twisted or the accusations are so ridiculous I will not respond (such as I must be having an affair because I went at 9:00PM to ICU to say goodnight to my gravely ill son for 20 minutes. Who am I having an affair with? The coma patients??)
If I respond with a 'go ahead and leave' when he threatens to leave, oh he leaves for 10 minutes and comes back even more fueled because I didn't care enough to stop him.
I think you're getting the picture.
How does someone not engage in fight without being dismissive and fueling fight?
Posted via Mobile Device