Congratulations! I agree, it is scary and that is why many stay. I too left not having a job, no money saved to give me a start. Determination is amazing, we just have to be willing to move forward.
When I went through my divorce having been married over 20 years and living in a state that awarded alimony to a spouse who did not have equal income my attorney (charged to a credit card) told me that men will hide their money and will ask for less financial obligations. They explained that women feel if we please them they will be nice and will make the transaction easier but that was not the case. They were so right. My ex did exactly what they warned me of.I had several legal aid help me with which documents to file etc but ultimately chose not to fight him because other than DS we had nothing to fight over. We rented so no house. I let him take the "family" car because he was stressing me out and using as a foothold in my life. He never worked so we had no savings since my job paid the bills. So nothing to split there. 20 years of marriage and we had accumulated nothing. It was like our marriage never existed. As far as child support. I have asked for less than I am owed and probably won't see a dime of it anyway. I left him for a reason, do I really think he will hold up his end? I just had to let that bull*** go and focus on what I could control and nothing I could not. i.e. him.