So 2 month ago to the day my wife moved out saying she needed space to help her feel better about herself. I gave her this space then she turned around 2 days later and asked for a divorce. I have 3 small kids so this was not an appeasing scenario for me to say the least. I'm of the school that if you truly love someone then you will give them what they want even if its not in your best interest. I love my wife and kids but I can't hold her here in this marriage against her will. I don't care if she is cheating or not she's gone and I think the abandonment hurts worse than any act of infidelity could. I've been through the whole we are separated so it doesn't count days early in our relationship...so I speak from experiance. When I tried early in our seperation to promise change and suggested counseling it was met with anger and got me no where. Now that I have stopped chasing and turned my attention towards accepting my fate and working on myself and developing a life with out her in it. She wants to accuse me of pushing her away every conversation with her brings a comment about my attitude, or how I'm pissy today, or how I always make her feel like ****. How can I do that when I hardly talk to you? She constantly tells me how she doesn't want me to hate her. Really are you kidding me here? What she wants is me to absolve her guilt. To say no I don't hate you I deserve this please give me more of it. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't.