Is he at least 18? Was he at least 18 when they started up? Just how in hell did they meet?
What he needs to do is have no contact with her, EVER.i am truly sorry you find yourself in this state MMNG, now is not the time to be thinking about anything or anyone else right now but yourself, healing one self is the most important thing you can do. Please make sure she has no contact with you in this state.
The only thing of substance that wasn't true was his age, the amount of children (we have two) and our business (we raise and breed hunting dogs). I was afraid she might wonder onto this sight and find me posting, I'm sure others feel the same at the start. He IS from several states away. No physical contact has ever been had because he came with his parents to meet her, and she hasn't left the state and from the snooping I know he hasn't left his state either, I am not snooping anymore, its for the best considering my mental health at the moment. I actually got his parents involved (very christian people), his parents were outraged and told me they would never accept her into their family and they were so angry with what he did to my family. Yes I snooped, and I snooped well, I'm talking facebook, instagram, texts messages, email, google photos, phone records you name it. Anyway, it's definitely an emotional affair, she admitted to such which is why I kicked her out and she hasn't returned. We are currently seeing a counselor together, if anything it will help me understand what the hell happened in our relationship and how we can improve individually. It's been going pretty good, I feel my moods lifting finally. No I'm not on anything for depression, though I do take a mood stabilizer as of the time I spent in the center. Anyhow, thanks for the continued support. I assume some on here did the forgive thing and are living happily with their spouses again? I just want to exhaust all my options before I go divorcing, I'm a one time sort of guy and I'd like to keep it that way if at all possible.It sounds like your wife is about fifteen years older than him. That’s extremely out of line. No wonder her family jumped on her. Your wife needs mental care. Is she getting it? Are you still separated? It’s hard to advise you not knowing what is true in your thread.
Did you get the two books linked to below?
Does he actually live a long distance away? Did she actually go to see him? What’s real?
Why a kid, why one wet behind the ears?The only thing I am have a problem with is the fact the OM is a kid. Bad enough that she had an affair, but with a kid?!?!?!?!