[UniversityDude]

It boggles my mind that some people actually take the time to create a username and register on this site just to troll!
Its not even a "fun" forum where you can "enjoy" surfing and browsing through people's real issues in life, but hey whatever floats your boat!

I think I got 2 or maybe 3 replies that were helpful and none-judgemental. So' Ive decided to end this topic and deal with this matter elsewhere.

 

[toblerone]

i can't make sense of anything in this story

 

[Married but Happy]

i can't make sense of anything in this story

I think it boils down to him buying a pig in a poke, who won't let him poke her, and now her wants to poke a different pig.

 

[WorkingOnMe]

You think you know what I’m thinking now, but you’re wrong.


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[toblerone]

so, did you move to europe to be with her? did you move her from europe to 'north america' ?

how did you manage to be defiled with such 'north american' values in the first place?

also, north america is beautiful time this year. i especially appreciate the great lake.

 

[pragmaticGoddess]

No it’s not normal at all. It is not mormal for a woman to not want sex and for three years. Understandably she might want to consummate your relationship on wedding night, but to give you reasons for months after (years??) I think she must have had some trauma in her past.

Sadly this will not change without a lot of hard work, therapy and time. You can read of the other posts here and come to this conclusion. Others might be able to better advise you.

 

[UniversityDude]

I think it boils down to him buying a pig in a poke, who won't let him poke her, and now her wants to poke a different pig.

Thanks! that was both inspiring and helpful!

 

[Fozzy]

OP, are we to understand that you still have not had sex with your wife after three years of marriage?

If that is the case, and you're asking for what I'd do, I'd immediately seek an annulment of the marriage on the grounds that it's never actually been consummated. I'd then get myself into some sort of therapy to figure out why I married a girl because I was mad at her ex-boyfriend whom I'd never met.

 

[UniversityDude]

OP, are we to understand that you still have not had sex with your wife after three years of marriage?

If that is the case, and you're asking for what I'd do, I'd immediately seek an annulment of the marriage on the grounds that it's never actually been consummated. I'd then get myself into some sort of therapy to figure out why I married a girl because I was mad at her ex-boyfriend whom I'd never met.

Ya, no sex sill. but I dont understand why would she not want to have sex tho?
I left out a lot of details in my story but I did catch her watching heterosexual porn one time. So she defiantly feels something and also that she is not gay!

 

[Andy1001]

She must be really hot for you to hang around so long.
Your wife obviously has no problem with sex.
Her problem is having sex with you.
By the way what does being a good North American have to do with anything.Are you a “Nice”guy by any chance.Maybe your wife sees you as a protector rather than a husband.
Be honest, is she out of your league looks wise,you say you had a threesome in college,did they come back for more?

 

[Elizabeth001]

Ya, no sex sill. but I dont understand why would she not want to have sex tho?

I left out a lot of details in my story but I did catch her watching heterosexual porn one time. So she defiantly feels something and also that she is not gay!

Who cares why? You may never know. Get the annulment before it’s too late and move on.


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[UniversityDude]

She must be really hot for you to hang around so long.
Your wife obviously has no problem with sex.
Her problem is having sex with you.
By the way what does being a good North American have to do with anything.Are you a “Nice”guy by any chance.Maybe your wife sees you as a protector rather than a husband.
Be honest, is she out of your league looks wise,you say you had a threesome in college,did they come back for more?

To answer your question in the most honest way I have to say, people have been telling me that I could do better! she hardly puts any make-up on and was extremely fat when I met her!
So that is why I call myself a good North American here. plus, the whole shebang with her boyfriend was really complicated and I got myself into A LOT, to get the police involved and court and stuff... AND it wasn't even in my country or the law I am familiar with. so that is why.

 

[chillymorn69]

Move on shes never going to be what you desire and need.

She was a rebound and you have white knight snydrome.

Take some time after you give her the boot to figure things out.

Thats all I got.

 

[Fozzy]

I'm much more interested in why you've waited three years to start looking into whether or not it's normal for a woman to not ever to consummate her marriage.

Here's a hint: She doesn't have sex with you because you let her get away with being a wife that doesn't have sex with you. You're half the problem.

 

[UniversityDude]

I'm much more interested in why you've waited three years to start looking into whether or not it's normal for a woman to not ever to consummate her marriage.

Here's a hint: She doesn't have sex with you because you let her get away with being a wife that doesn't have sex with you. You're half the problem.

She portrayed the issue as a medical condition that required seeing a doctor. Who would force himself on an sick person with medical condition who cant have sex right?
but then nothing got better and expenses started to pileup.

 

[SunCMars]

The story is irregular, abnormal.
But not so much as Thee.

What have you done to consummate your need to expel your built up seed? Gallons of nights alone, laying below your belt.

 

[wilson]

I'm sorry to say, the only solution is to divorce. You sound like a nice guy who helped her out. I'm sorry that it didn't work out like it should have. There is no realistic way to fix this relationship. The longer you spend in it, the longer you will live this way.

She married you because you were her safety net who rescued her from a bad situation. Unfortunately, her feelings for you didn't develop and it's extremely unlikely they will in the future. Even in the best marriages, passion typically dies down as the years go on. If you're starting from here, you really don't have a hope.

Is she trying to get a green card?

 

[Young at Heart]

She portrayed the issue as a medical condition that required seeing a doctor. Who would force himself on an sick person with medical condition who cant have sex right?
but then nothing got better and expenses started to pileup.

You have been played!

My advice is to go to either a divorce attorney and end this......or set up a marriage counseling session where you lay out your side of the story to the counselor and she guves hers, Then tell them tat you will give this sorry excuse of a marriage another 6 months to get to the point of you being sexually satisfied or you will file for divorce.

You also need to read about "damsel in distress" and "white knight to the rescue."

Again you sound like she played you. Good Luck

 

[Livvie]

I'm much more interested in why you've waited three years to start looking into whether or not it's normal for a woman to not ever to consummate her marriage.

Here's a hint: She doesn't have sex with you because you let her get away with being a wife that doesn't have sex with you. You're half the problem.

She portrayed the issue as a medical condition that required seeing a doctor. Who would force himself on an sick person with medical condition who cant have sex right?
but then nothing got better and expenses started to pileup.

A medical condition she didn't get help with for YEARS??

 

[Windwalker]

3 years ago, I decided to go on a trip alone. Things weren’t working out between me and my ex so I’ve decided to breakup with her and take a trip to Europe to get away from everything.

Whatever the case may have been, I just couldn’t witness this naïve girl be abused like that.
Fast forward, I ended up proposing to her and this is when things got really bizarre!


(Her answer was the second weirdest thing)
So.. I was told (in details!) that she did in fact have some sort of sexual activities! but.., now she is waiting for the right moment. Days and months went by, we got married and the “right moment” never arrived.


So please, what is going on here? Is this normal?

To answer your question in the most honest way I have to say, people have been telling me that I could do better! she hardly puts any make-up on and was extremely fat when I met her!
So that is why I call myself a good North American here. plus, the whole shebang with her boyfriend was really complicated and I got myself into A LOT, to get the police involved and court and stuff... AND it wasn't even in my country or the law I am familiar with. so that is why.

On the off chance that this isn't some elaborate troll scenario, I'll bite.

If I were to find myself in your shoes, I would immediately check myself into the nearest mental institution for a very serious evaluation.

Break up with current girlfriend because life is just not all that great.

Travel to Europe to get away from it all.

Get involved with a girl you really know nothing about and then inject yourself into her messed up relationship with her psycho ex-boyfriend.

Then propose to the same said girl.

Get married to same said girl without so much as roll in the hay.

Stay married 3 years in a sex less marriage with said girl.

Supposedly has engaged in 3 somes with other college students.

Ask total strangers if your marriage is normal.

2+2 does not equal 0,2,6,or 69 in this case.

Why in the 9th ring of hell?