When we got married I had a good job, house and car and very stable. Got married 2 years in, my wife quit her job against my wishes inorder to be home with our newborn son. Now we had built a life around 2 incomes. For years, I worked 6 days a week we struggled and were broke because she quit her job without us talking or planning. Now years later we have friends who the husband lost his job and got a terrific severance. She comments about how hard it must be for the wife to be the bread winner and not have a choice but to work hard. Can she hear what she is saying??? I commented , " Yea its tough being the bread winner and not having choices. I never heard that from you when you quit without giving me a choice". She has it justified that was ok since our son never had to be with a sitter and somehow its different. WTH!!!