Here in NJ it costs almost $300 to file vs $135 to make a counter file. I am filing and put in a request for a fee waiver and am waiting on that. The courts are closed for the holidays so I probably won't know until mid January but if I can save the money I'm willing to wait. If they turn me down, I'll cough it up but they could waive it partially or completely, which would help a lot.If you file first...then you pay for the filing. Some people like to file first to make a statement (I divorced HIS a**), some like to wait and make the other do it (If he wants it so bad HE can file), some...like me, can't really afford it but know the other is too lazy or unmotivated to ever do it so to move on with my life it was necessary.
I think that might be the same problem I'm having with my STBXW...I just want to get on with my life. I've made the decision to divorce and now I want to get it done. It's just the way I am. When I make up my mind, I forge ahead. My H knows this and I think that's why when I started talking to him about it, he freaked out. He knows it's not an "if" now but "when".