My wife has a chronic health condition that prevents her from doing much of anything physical. I have to help her, take care of the house, cook, manage children and work full time. I harbor some resentment for this, much of her health problems are difficult but I don't feel like she has taken all the steps she can to take care of herself.
As some ladies (and fellas) can attest to, its hard to be attracted to someone whom you resent and have to take care of all the time.
I love her, she's a good person and I don't want to get a divorce and break up my family. I want a sex life. I have read MMSL and tried the MAP etc.. but at this point I am left with the option of sticking with porn (god bless porn), or seeking sex outside the marriage. I don't want to have an affair or a long term situation, just a sex life. And at this point she is unable, unwilling and sadly, just not attractive to me.
So what would you do in this situation? I am disinclined to break up my family because of my little head, but I don't want to be miserable either. Life is stressful and I miss sex. Do I ask for sex outside our nuptials and break her heart? Do I keep it on the 'Down low' and hope I am not exposed later on? Is there a circumstance where this is acceptable???