I think most of it is self-imposed.
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Sadly, divorce is common now. The good thing re: the stigma is that it's not the "WTF"-thing of the past that it used to be. So I don't think it has the stigma I did before.
Personally, I was deeply ashamed at & embarassed by being divorced. I have residual effects to where it has traumatized me to the point where I feel and say I would never marry again.
Let's face it: no one gets married intending to divorce.
I don't think anyone enjoys the fact they got married w/ high hopes and it ended in divorce BUT, the fact is, half of all marriages end in divorce. Which means, there are a LOT of divorces.
Sometimes (and I know this is bad), I will be sitting with a group of my friends (couples) and think "In the future, which half of you will be getting divorced?" It seems most of my friends at this age are getting married and starting families now whereas I am childless and already got married and divorced. It's very interesting to watch it all happening from my point of view. I think "Who's next?" sometimes but of course I want the couples to last! It's just the fact that divorce is definitely going to happen to some of them when it comes to the stats.