I am 23 and my wife is 25 and we have been married for a year on Sunday. She has been really upset lately, and I get upset as well, because like most men I don't like to be nagged or hazzled all the time, but I do believe I bring most of it upon myself. Let me say that. Currently we have a "money" issue in the fact we do not see eye to eye on things, we do have 2 young children ages 2 and 4. Anyhow, back to the money issue, I enjoy going out and spending money, after all the bills are paid for and the kids and what not are taken care of, my wife however is always getting upset calling my parents talking to them about this ****, and it pisses me off, she says I spend to much, and she hates basically living paycheck to paycheck with very little in savings. We argue all the time about money, and sometimes we get pretty heated about it, I feel I work all day and I deserve to enjoy some time out and what not, don't get me wrong she works as well. Also when it comes to sex, I feel there is definitely something there, but I like to spice things up ie toys, mini-skirts, sexy clothing but yet she's not into it at all. What do I do about this I have spoken to her about it and she either blows me off or says no way, or whatever you know. I don't want my marriage to end due to money issues. We do have a budget I guess I don't FOLLOW it that well. Maybe I am just not seeing things from her point of view. Can anyone suggest anything or help me out?