I am 46 and my wife 5 years younger. We're both fit, athletic and she looks great. We have been married 12 years and have two children. Early in our marriage she cheated on me with another man, and it happened twice more a few years later. I forgave her each time and we went for counseling and I thought we were OK. Since 5 months ago my suspicion has been aroused. I will list my experiences:
1. She confided that she feels bisexual and is turned on by other women
2. She has become exceedingly close with another woman (A)
3. Whenever they go out together, she wants to spend the night with A, as she feels it is too dangerous to drive home alone. Initially I thought nothing of it, but now have said no. Before this she has had no problems driving anywhere at all times of the day.
4. I frequently travel overseas and on one of my recent trips she had over another friend and her child for a sleepover. She told me all about the evening and night, what happened, what she cooked but did not mention that A too had also stayed over, sleeping in our room with my wife. I found out accidentally when my daughter let slip. Incidentally my daughter is a very heavy sleeper and had stayed in our room with them, sleeping on the spare bed.
5. Our sex life has changed. Normally, we would have sex about 3 times a week, but for the past 2 months it is restricted to only once and on saturdays. frequently she has things to do when I go to bed or she somehow falls asleep immediately when I get into bed. Also, if I try to initiate something she will push me away. This has never happened before. Also, she used to like me going down on her, but now she says that it is too ticklish.
6. Whenever she gets a call from A she will go into another room and lock the door.
7. She has changed all the passwords on her ipad and religiously deletes all sms and call records.
8. She has had a glamour portrait photo taken of herself and has hidden it from me. Did not even tell me, I found it by accident.
9. I taped one of her phone conversations; I can only hear one side but she talks to A in a low teasing voice and asks "You know my insides?""What have you been looking at" and before hanging up "Yes babe, I miss you so much too". This is on 8am monday, after they had been together till 8pm on sunday. Also the language used is very possessive like,"I don't want you to take the bus and walk so far"...
10. She has become very loving and kind and attentive to me, as long as it is outside bed.
I'm going crazy and have not slept well for almost two weeks. I want to confront her, but don't know if I should, as any accusation might make me seem crazy.
1. She confided that she feels bisexual and is turned on by other women
2. She has become exceedingly close with another woman (A)
3. Whenever they go out together, she wants to spend the night with A, as she feels it is too dangerous to drive home alone. Initially I thought nothing of it, but now have said no. Before this she has had no problems driving anywhere at all times of the day.
4. I frequently travel overseas and on one of my recent trips she had over another friend and her child for a sleepover. She told me all about the evening and night, what happened, what she cooked but did not mention that A too had also stayed over, sleeping in our room with my wife. I found out accidentally when my daughter let slip. Incidentally my daughter is a very heavy sleeper and had stayed in our room with them, sleeping on the spare bed.
5. Our sex life has changed. Normally, we would have sex about 3 times a week, but for the past 2 months it is restricted to only once and on saturdays. frequently she has things to do when I go to bed or she somehow falls asleep immediately when I get into bed. Also, if I try to initiate something she will push me away. This has never happened before. Also, she used to like me going down on her, but now she says that it is too ticklish.
6. Whenever she gets a call from A she will go into another room and lock the door.
7. She has changed all the passwords on her ipad and religiously deletes all sms and call records.
8. She has had a glamour portrait photo taken of herself and has hidden it from me. Did not even tell me, I found it by accident.
9. I taped one of her phone conversations; I can only hear one side but she talks to A in a low teasing voice and asks "You know my insides?""What have you been looking at" and before hanging up "Yes babe, I miss you so much too". This is on 8am monday, after they had been together till 8pm on sunday. Also the language used is very possessive like,"I don't want you to take the bus and walk so far"...
10. She has become very loving and kind and attentive to me, as long as it is outside bed.
I'm going crazy and have not slept well for almost two weeks. I want to confront her, but don't know if I should, as any accusation might make me seem crazy.