I have been going through some financial issues and my stress level has been high, I have been coping with anxiety attacks for the past year long story..., I helped a guy out I work with and let him stay with us for awile while he got his new house in order. My wife volenteered to help him clean and fix his house it was a major project.... well in the meantime my wifes deminor changed , started dressing up , makeup and grooming habits I havent seen for a long . The trips to his house were a regular thing. I started to get a bad feeling something was going on. One day she brought my girls up there and i went to get them . she said she need a while to get some more things done. well as i was loading them in the car I happened to look up and could have swore i seen the guys head peak quick though the window. I confronted him later that day, said i was imagining it. well right after that the crap hit the fan she said , i think we need to seperate yadda yadda yadda.... I think it was a deversion tactic but im not sure .. I still dont even know if i seen what i seen..little things happened since then always wondering where i am .. sex life zero...toys missing from bedroom.. you get the picture. She recently told me that the reason she is no longer interested in sex is that shes starting to go through an early metapause,shes 41, said shes gonna see a doctor. Shes been very mean and defensive as of late wont say i love you or hug me .I have been clingy latly I admit that its hard to live with someone with no display of affection. I dont know .. I have no concreate proof and i fell if i tell the guy to have no contact with her that my marriage will self destruct. already accused me of being to controling. The other thing is this guy has a little money and i feel shes using him as a surgar daddy.. this just plain sucks because i need to know for sure if there is an affair. Sure the heck feels like one to me. going to conseling .. said just take more pills ... I know thw source of my issues and it dosnt take a doctor to figure it out. Im trying to stay calm but I work with the guy every day and trust me hes nothing to look at 60 bald and overweight. am i reading to much into this? should i continue to to let her work with him? my anxiety level is at an alltime high, need anwsers and im no detective . I suck at it.. tried believe me. just feel like it will never end and i need it to or my marriage will be over if it isnt already.. thanks