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My oldest son and his family live over 6 hours away so we don't get to see his family very often, usually 3-4 times a year. He has 3 kids, all boys, ranging in age from 12 to 15. Every year for their birthdays, we send a card along with a $50 check. We've done this their entire lives. We also send a check to my son and his wife on their birthdays. The thing is, my son's wife is the only one who ever thanks us for our gift. She will always send us a nice text or a hand-written note, thanking us for the gift and telling us what she is going to do with the money. From the other four, including my son, zip, nadda. So for the next year, I'm saying that with the exception of my DIL, we should cut them off. Send a nice card for their birthdays, but no money. If anyone asks about it, we'll just tell them that we are done sending money that is not appreciated. My wife disagrees. She thinks we should just keep sending money and not say anything about it. She doesn't see it as an issue. I see it as a lack of character. What would you all do?
I guess as the grandparent you don't have the option to just stop gifting them but I would certainly cut it way back. I start off gifting friends kids but I will just stop if they are ungrateful. So many of them have way more than they need anyway.
 

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I just saw a woman who was kissing her son every time he misbehaved and ignored her requests. He was about six or seven. She was just trying to get him to stand on the sidewalk while she got the other two kids out of the car so he was out of the way.

So she told him about five times and kissed him every time she told him. Then he went to the sidewalk briefly and then came and tried to climb up onto the car the open door before she was finished.
 

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Maybe your son feels his wife is speaking for him and the kids too, by sending one family “thank you” text? Like it’s assumed they are all grateful by her sending the thank you message. :unsure:
Parents need to be teaching the kids manners and it doesn't get much more basic than saying please and thank you and I just don't think that's too much to ask. I mean if you're not teaching your kids please and thank you what on Earth are you teaching them?
 
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