Yes it is a relevant point here because while it's true that there are some women that are not into clubbing and being hit on by other men, the OP's wife DOES.
She has came right out and stated that she wants the attention, wants to dance with other dudes and has stated upfront to him that she wants to lip-lock with other dudes which is just a lo-carb way of saying she wants to get down with other dudes.
For all intents and purposes, she is saying she wants an open marriage. She wants to be able to have sexual interaction and contact with other men while he babysits at home.
Now it's OK for couples to have an open marriage and it's OK to have sex with other people as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult. I'm not judging that.
BUT, the OP needs to understand the risks and needs to understand just what it is that he is up against here and what he stands to lose if he continues to babysit while he sends her out to score with other men.
And he needs to understand and accept human nature, male nature and female nature for what it actually is and not for what he hopes and wishes it to be that is convenient to him.
that’s gold you should stick in your pocket OP.
your wife isn’t shaving all of a sudden because you like it. She’s shaving for other men. You got part of the truth before. All you got this last conversation is ass coverage, minimization, whatcha-wanna hear......, She’s just trying to calm you down so she can go out and get that waxed thing taken care of by a new guy.
Any man whose wife is going out clubbing and his wife tells him she wants to kiss other men, likes their attention, has started dressing differently and shaving their stuff after never or rarely having done it before...,,
The answer to your question is a huge YES.
But your weakness in the relationship and fear of loss is too great for you to tell her you’ve had enough of the dance clubs and late night adventures, and aren’t sharing her with anyone.
You can’t put a raging fire out with a feather. You’ve got yourself an inferno.
And, let me respectfully say that you thinking “you know your wife” and “know when she’s lying” and this and that......
Please understand that there are very few men AND women that were cheated on and lied to that said “hell, I knew all along they were about to cheat and lying to me about it”. There are scores of spouses that never had any clue they were being shaded or that their spouse was capable of such deceit. Your wife is not a special snowflakes that can’t lie to your face and make you believe it. She can, and she already is. What makes it so easy to lie to you is that you WANT to believe the lie with your entire being.
If I had to describe 95% of what you told us your wife said in that conversation, it would be “bovine manure”. She just made you feel better so you’d put your guard down.
I think you’re up a creek without a paddle at this point.